How to Act When a Guy Ignores You

by Sarah Morgan

About Sarah Morgan

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Sarah Morgan has been a copywriter since 2008 and has written hundreds of articles for various websites and blogs, including work for the Couple's Institute and Caney Technology. Morgan has a degree in practical ministry from FIRE school of ministry in Charlotte, NC.

Whether it is from insecurity, immaturity, an interior power struggle or simply a packed work or school schedule, boys and men tend to ignore members of the opposite sex. This tendency is puzzling, and even guys may not understand this strange behavior. How you should act when a guy ignores you depends on the stage of the relationship and how his behavior fits into context with the grand relationship scheme.

Step 1

Play it cool if a guy you have never met catches your eye, shows interest, then proceeds to ignore you. Assume he is just waiting for a green light to approach you. Guys are intimidated by women they are attracted to; encourage him with a smile and brief but direct eye contact. Once he knows you are interested, it's usually only a matter of moments before he makes a move.

Step 2

Ask the guy directly what's behind his lack of communication. If he goes out with you one or two times then stops calling, his ignoring is a signal that he's just not interested in pursuing a relationship. Be ready for him to say something about work or not being ready for a relationship right now. If he actually admits he's not into you, woman up and wish him well. There are other fish in the sea.

Step 3

Don't freak out if a guy you are seriously dating starts ignoring you right after you've had a moment of breakthrough or deep intimacy. Relationship specialist and author Dr. John Gray says that males naturally behave like rubber bands in a healthy relationship. He needs to pull away after things get deep, but he'll snap right back into place if you give him the space he needs. Let your man retreat to his cave and process things without making him feel like he's failing you; he'll come back to the relationship in full force and things will likely get even deeper.

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Tip

  • Read books about how men and women differ in communication styles. This will help you to adjust when your guy does something you absolutely don't understand. Men are not women; to some extent, we just need to get used to it.