When beginning a new relationship, spend intimate, quality time with the guy you like to build a lasting friendship. When you’ve just entered a relationship with your boyfriend, you’re likely to still be adjusting to the newness of everything and not know quite how to act. Over time you’ll gain the comfort from being around him and learn each other’s quirks, but as a general rule of thumb, your best bet is to be yourself.
Be yourself. Channel the personality that got you two together in the first place by being yourself. Avoid putting on an act so that he gets a chance to learn and like you for you. Know that it’s okay to be silly or quirky if that’s your natural attitude towards life.If you appear to be something other than what you really are, the deceit will eventually come out and create a problem in the relationship.
Be a good friend. Remember that, as his girlfriend, one of your most important duties is to be an ideal friend to him. Listen to him when he has a problem or is excited about something new in his life. Offer to help out whenever you can.
Do things to make him happy. Pick up little things you know he needs or wants while you’re at the store, like his favorite snack or something you know he needs for a special project. Spend plenty of time together and communicate often. Enjoy your new relationship status and give it the nurturing it needs.
Share activities together. Participate in interests that you share as well as those you do not. Allow him to expose you to doing things he likes and be willing to show him things you like to do. Try something neither of you have done, from going jet skiing and hiking to painting and taking in some exercise. Get out and about and enjoy being a couple.
Rid yourself of your ex. Give your new relationship a chance to grow and develop without a pesky, lingering ex resurfacing. Have a clear conversation with your boyfriend that sets up some general rules about how you both will handle issues from your past so you’re discussing them as a team and not hiding things from each other.
Give each other natural space. Space out your time together so that you don’t smother each other. Be confident within your relationship to know that the two of you do not have to be joined at the hip to be in a solid relationship. Encourage him to go out with his friends and you do the same so that you can appreciate your time apart when you see each other again.
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