While some people find traditional dating patterns "old-fashioned," others promote traditional dating as a romantic, practical and time-honored prelude to a strong and lasting marriage. Traditional dating can take many forms, from blind dating to parent-arranged dating to no-sex dating. Many people support traditional dating as a healthy way to find a partner and begin a life together.
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Dating in an atmosphere that discourages physical contact before marriage offers the opportunity to evaluate your date as a potential spouse on a number of important levels. If you have time to get to know your dating partner without worrying about a sexual relationship, you can concentrate on other, important aspects of the relationship. Some of these include questions of whether your date treats you respectfully, whether she communicates honestly and whether she listens to you and respects your opinion. Traditional dating gives each of you the chance to express your life goals and determine whether they match those of your date. If you and your date both know from the beginning of the relationship that your dates will not include physical contact, you will rely on conversation to develop your relationship and learn whether your date will make a good marriage partner for you.
Traditional dating allows you to spend time with a person who shares your values and, perhaps, religious views regarding dating as a means to an end -- marriage. If you date with the objective of finding a marriage partner, you want to be sure your date is on the same page. If you and your date go out with the understanding that you both view the ultimate objective of dating as marriage, you won't find yourself thinking about commitment while the other person just wants a good time or a short-term fling.
Turning to a matchmaker might seem funny and old-fashioned, but matchmakers thrive in many communities, allowing individuals who might otherwise not meet to get together and evaluate their suitability as marriage partners. An experienced matchmaker understands the factors that make a good match and learns how to set up suitable couples. The matchmaker might work through parents or directly with the dating individuals themselves when suggesting appropriate dating partners. Many people don't like to go out on a blind date because blind dates so often end in failure. Families in many communities, as well as the singles themselves, trust a community matchmaker or a matchmaker who is a member of their religious affiliation.
Arranged marriages involve parental involvement that provides the dating couple with guidance regarding their parents' views of an ideal partner. While many people feel that this system doesn't allow the dating couple to make their own decisions, others feel that this tradition strengthens a resulting marriage by involving the people who know the couple the best, their parents. In many communities, parents meet and thoroughly investigate the potential date to ensure that they will make an appropriate partner for their child. The couple meets only after the parents decide that the date's values, goals and expectations meet theirs and those of their child. Supporters of this system claim that this reduces the percentage of "failed dates" that occur among young people who date only for marriage.
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