What to Do After the Breakup of a Long Relationship?

by Marcelina Hardy

About Marcelina Hardy

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Marcelina Hardy began counseling in 2000 and started her freelance writing and editing career in 2006. She works as a group editor for the Web site, LoveToKnow and has also published on sites such as LendingTree. Marcelina has a Master of Science in Education in counseling from Old Dominion University and a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from University of Massachusetts at Amherst.

What to Do After the Breakup of a Long Relationship?

You will make it past this heartache. By taking care of yourself with a few simple heartbreak steps, you can start to learn how to live your life without someone who has been part of it for a long time. It's important to take care of yourself after a breakup, or it may negatively affect future relationships.

Start Living Life Without Your Partner

Do not hold out hope you and your partner will get back together, even if you feel like you will. You may have false hope and the realization later that you may not reconcile may actually be worse. Start to cope with the breakup as soon as it happens and mourn the loss of the relationship immediately.

Mourn the End of the Relationship

It's important to treat this as the death of a loved one. No, not the death of your partner, but the loss of the partner in your life. You'll have many of the same emotions you would have if he or she did pass away (anger, anxiety, sadness, etc.). Feel these emotions and don't hold them in. Speak to your family and friends about your emotions to help you process through them.

Seek the Support of Family and Friends

When you suffer the loss of one person in your life, it helps to have other people in your life remind you that you are not alone. Have these friends around you to help you get through this difficult time in your life. You can talk to them or use them as a distraction by going out and doing things with them, even if you don't really feel like doing anything at all. Sometimes you may not feel like going out to dinner with friends but it can be the best temporary cure for the breakup blues.

Keep Your Mental Health in Check

Relationship breakups are serious emotional events in life, so it's important to pay attention to the mental effects you experience. If you begin feeling depressed, hopeless, helpless, stop enjoying activities you once found fun, have changes in appetite or sleep habits, experience an increase in illnesses or especially thoughts of suicide, contact a medical professional immediately or call 1-800-SUICIDE.

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