How to Attract Women on the Internet

by David Coodin

About David Coodin

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David Coodin began working as a writer in 2005, and has been published in "The Walrus." He contributes to various websites, writing primarily in the areas of education and art. Coodin holds a Ph.D. in English literature from York University in Toronto.

How to Attract Women on the Internet

Signing up for an online dating site is easy, but getting women to respond to your messages can be much more challenging. Improve your odds by creating a profile that highlights your best qualities and by writing quality messages. Remember that your goal is to come across as confident without seeming aggressive or desperate. Try to depict yourself as an easygoing nice guy who wants to get to know women.

Step 1

Choose a picture for your dating profile that is appropriate. Avoid pictures that make you seem arrogant or unintelligent. Don't use a picture of you wearing sunglasses. Let women see your eyes and your face. Get a female friend to help you choose a picture that is attractive without making you seem cheesy.

Step 2

Begin constructing your profile. Avoid inflating your good qualities or you will seem arrogant. Bragging about your wealth, your car or your body might attract a small percentage of women, but it will set off alarm bells for most of them. Keep it simple and talk about the good qualities of your personality rather than your possessions. Do this by saying what you are looking for in a women. Focus on qualities such as sensitivity, loyalty, sense of humor or an appreciation for the simple things in life.

Step 3

Keep the tone of your profile lighthearted and humorous. Most women are wary of men who seem desperate or too serious about online dating. If you can, emphasize the fact that you are new to Internet dating and that you don't expect to find your match. Joke about your flaws without being self-deprecating. Being able to talk about your weaknesses will actually make you seem more confident than someone who has to brag about his virtues.

Step 4

Be honest. Avoid trying to match your interests to what you think women are looking for. Instead, talk about what makes you happy in life, what sorts of activities you enjoy and what interests you most. If you are genuine, your honesty will come across. If you are not looking for a serious relationship, say so in your profile. Women will appreciate your honesty.

Step 5

Don't get too personal. Remember that women are on the lookout for predators. In your initial message or chat session, don't ask too many personal questions. Start with a general question such as "What sorts of things do you like to do on weekends?" Use her response as a way to begin a genuine conversation. For instance, if she answers that she likes to go to restaurants, show what you have in common by mentioning a restaurant you went to recently and liked.

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