How to Avoid Dating a Loser

by eHow Relationships & Family Editor

When you're looking for love, you're bound to have both hits and misses. Having hits is great, and having misses will prepare you for future dates. But the worst aspect of dating is going out with a loser. Everyone's definition of a loser will be slightly different, but that doesn't change the fact that you should avoid dating one. With an honest heart and a level head, it should be easy to avoid dating a loser.

Take your time at the start of a relationship. While it may be fresh and exciting to meet someone new, it is only with time that you really get to know someone. A person can make a strong first impression and turn out to be a loser. Conversely, someone could make less of a splash at first, but turn out to be a true gem as time goes by.

Be honest with yourself. If someone is incredibly attractive but you still feel like something is missing, then something is. Maybe the person you are dating is a little vain, or maybe they aren't as caring as you would like them to be. Just ask yourself what more you want and whether this person can provide it.

Give blind dating a try. Blind dating, when set up by a friend or someone you really trust, can be uncomfortable. Nevertheless, if your friend knows you well, he may actually be able to fix you up with someone who has everything you need.

Leave anyone who ever does anything that physically hurts you--no exceptions. Some people fool themselves into thinking that their partner will never do it again, but why take the chance? Your safety should always be more important.

Make sure your partner has plenty of his or her own interests. If they're homebodies that never go out or motivate themselves to get involved in other activities, they're probably never going to push themselves too hard to achieve their own dreams, instead relying on you to support them.

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Tip

  • Ask your friends and family their honest opinion about the people you date. Sometimes the people in your life can see them with clearer eyes, making it a lot easier to avoid dating a loser.

Warning

  • No matter how tempting, don't actually refer to your date as a loser. Not only is this hurtful, but you never know who they know and what kind of long-term repercussions ending a relationship on a sour note might have.