Blind Dating Facts

Blind Dating Facts

by J. Lynn Patten

About J. Lynn Patten

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J. Lynn Patten has her bachelor's degree in psychology from Central Michigan University and is working on her master's in drama from Texas Woman's University. She has worked with the young for more than eight years, in educational, social and artistic venues.

Two people who are not acquainted can meet through a blind date. With a bit of preparation, some trust and an open mind, these blind dates can turn into long-term relationships and can be a positive experience for everyone involved.

Function

Blind dates are a way for individuals who have never met can get to know one another. They can serve as a relatively low-commitment means of meeting another person with whom you could potentially form a romantic, or possibly platonic, relationship. Blind dates can serve as a means of dating for people who have busy lives, are shy or who might have difficulty meeting a potential match for any other number of reasons.

Features

Blind dates are typically set up through family members or mutual friends of both parties. After a blind date has been initiated by this third party, a location and time is chosen for the two people to meet one another. The two may or may not have spoken on the phone prior to meeting in person. The blind date may look like a typical two-person dinner-date or perhaps could be a group of individuals getting together for the purpose of having the two individuals meet one another.

Considerations

Ideally, the third parties have at least a relatively good understanding of both individuals, including likes and dislikes, general personalities and desires for a relationship. On the other hand, both dating parties know relatively little about one another and while this can be advantageous, it also serves as a means for much anxiety. Successful blind dates are often the results of approaching them with an open mind, a good amount of prudence and a desire to simply have a good time for a couple of hours.

Benefits

Going on a blind date is a risk, and this is often what has the potential for making them a positive experience. Whether it is a total flop or a huge success, you can be satisfied knowing you tried something a bit unusual. There are very few blind dates that don't at least warrant an interesting story. Also, as we tend to get to points in our lives where we meet relatively few new people on a regular basis, blind dating helps to widen your pool of potential mates.

Misconceptions

A common view of the blind date is that a somewhat normal individual is being set up with somebody who is an undesirable mate. If the third party is a trusted individual, then they often will have relatively good judgment about who might be suitable for you to date. Another misconception is that people only go on blind dates when they are desperate or undesirable. The reality may be that the people are busy, don't have lives that lead them to meet many new people or that they have had some life circumstances that have previously made it hard for them to date.

Warning

Blind dating can be fun and exciting, but you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position. Take certain safety precautions to cover the chance of having this date go very wrong. Make certain that the third party knows your potential blind date well and get as much information about him or her as possible before the night of the date. Meet up at a location where there will be plenty of other people. Drive your own vehicle. Make sure someone knows where you will be and when you plan to return home and have an excuse to leave ready in case the person you are meeting is, in fact, an individual with whom you do not feel safe.

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