How to Break the Ice

How to Break the Ice

by Lauri Revilla Google

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Lauri Revilla has been writing articles on mental health, wellness, relationships and lifestyle for more than six years. She moved to San Antonio, Texas, from Mexico in 2006. She holds a Master of Science in Psychology from Our Lady of the Lake University.

Meeting new people can be easier than you think when you know how to break the ice. Although it can be intimidating to approach a complete stranger, a good opening line will set a relaxed and friendly mood.The more you practice approaching people, the easier it will get over time.

Just Say Hello

The best way to strike up a conversation with someone is to just go up and introduce yourself. If you're feeling nervous about breaking the ice, take a deep breathe and imagine that you are about to approach a long-time friend. Make sure that you smile, speak in a friendly voice and maintain good eye contact when you approach the other person.

Comment On The Environment

Although it can be nerve-racking to initiate a conversation with a complete stranger, focusing on the fact that you are already sharing an experience can be reassuring. Take advantage of the fact that you are at the same place at the same time. Look around and comment on something about the environment to initiate a conversation, recommends clinical psychologist Susan Heitler in her Psychology Today article "How To Meet People at Parties: 7 Icebreakers." A simple comment,such as "This is a really nice place" or "The food is amazing," can jump-start a great conversation.

Be Curious

Its normal to feel anxiety when interacting with someone that you don't know. On the other hand, it is also a great opportunity to have a good time and meet someone new. If you're feeling anxious about talking to others, focus on how much you can learn about and from them. Individuals who are curious regarding social interactions are more likely to find them rewarding, according to a study published in the 2006 issue of Journal of Research in Personality. Ask the other person about his or her life, interests, work or anything else that interests you.

Bring Out The Compliments

If you want to start out on the right foot, begin your conversation with new people on a positive note. Look for what you like about them and offer sincere compliments. If you're dealing with a total stranger, comment on how much you like his shirt or how great her hair looks. Practice praising people you already know or practice issues compliments in other non-intimidating settings. This will make it easier to translate this skill to when you are trying to meet new people at a party or want to approach a guy or girl you like.

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