How to Build a Good Foundation in a Relationship With a New Man

How to Build a Good Foundation in a Relationship With a New Man

by Audrey Lucas

About Audrey Lucas

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Based in Southern California, Audrey Lucas has nine years of experience teaching preschool children. She contributes to the parenting section of her local children's magazine. Lucas graduated from California State University, San Marcos, in 2006, earning a Bachelor of Arts in liberal studies with an emphasis in literature and writing.

Breakups occur most commonly in the three to five month period of new relationships.For this reason, newly established couples must quickly work on building a good foundation for their relationship. Developing a healthy relationship from the start will increase the likelihood of a lasting and meaningful connection. The effort you put into the beginning of a romance reflects your level of commitment and willingness to make it work. Having a positive, healthy relationship can increase your self worth and lead to a happier life.

Step 1

Establish a healthy relationship by exploring the interests of your new man and building on the things you have in common. Many men like to share their hobbies with their partners. Take turns in choosing date activities to keep things fair and gradually share favorite pastimes. Accept the differences between you and your partner and don't try to mold him into a different person. Also show him your true self and avoid changing to fit his expectations. A couple in a healthy relationship should value individualism.

Step 2

Develop a trusting relationship by using honesty from the start. Address past issues with each other by actively listening and keeping an open mind. Also practice truthfulness in even minor situations to prove to your partner that he can fully trust you. Give him trust and avoid questioning and doubting all that he tells you. Suspicion and distrust will crumble the foundation of a new relationship.

Step 3

Communicate with respect even in situations of conflict. The manner of handling disagreements in the beginning of a relationship will set the stage for conflict resolution in the future. Decide what concerns you need to address and calmly share them with your partner. Actively listen to his needs and work together on finding rational and fair solutions. Nagging, name calling and holding grudges will put strain on the relationship and drive a wedge between you two. So, be direct and straightforward with him, a style of communication most men adopt.

Step 4

Take time for yourself and give him time as well to avoid an overly dependent relationship. You and your new man should spend time away from each other while hanging with friends or exploring hobbies and personal goals. You can each carry on a self-reliant lifestyles by finding sources of happiness other than your relationship. Spending time apart and having separate interests will help you both maintain independence and enjoy your special time together. You also help him feel independent, an important relationship value for a lot of men.

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