It may take months or years before you realize how much you love your partner. When you do come to the realization that you love her and want to commit to her, it can be difficult to figure out the best way to make a commitment. Proposing marriage isn't the right thing to do for every relationship. Though a proposal is the traditional way to commit to someone you love, ways exist to commit to the one you love without popping the question, such as through promise rings, moving in together or introducing her to your family.
Determine what kind of commitment you want to make to the one you love. Consider what you expect from yourself and from your partner. For example, if you want to commit to your partner, but aren't ready for marriage, an engagement or moving in together, you might consider committing to spend more time together with your families to determine whether you can see yourselves starting a family of your own. It's important to determine exactly what your commitment will look like before agreeing to it.
Communicate with the one you love regarding your ideas about commitment. Find out his views on commitment and whether he is ready to make the same type of commitment to you. Be open and honest with your feelings and give him a chance to be open and honest about his feelings as well.
Present her with a symbol of your new commitment to one another. Just as the engagement ring is a symbol of your commitment to spend the rest of your lives together, a promise ring can symbolize your commitment to move in together. If you have committed to getting to know one another's family members, consider giving her a necklace that she can wear the first time you introduce her to your parents.
Stick to your commitment plan. When you make a commitment, you should always work hard to keep your commitment, no matter how scary that may be. For example, if you are unsure about how your parents or family members may react to meeting your boyfriend for the first time, communicate with your partner about your fears and develop strategies to make introducing him easier for both of you instead of simply backing out on your commitment to get to know one another's family members.
Reflect on your commitment to your partner and recognize when it's time to take your commitment to the next level. Don't be afraid to change the type of commitment you have with your partner if it's not working out for you or you don't feel committed enough. For example, just because you and your partner have committed to live together doesn't mean that you must stay living in the same place if the relationship becomes abusive. If things go well living under the same roof, consider taking your commitment to the next level by getting engaged.
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