Your companion might seem aloof and unapproachable now, but with a little insight into her ISFP -- Introversion, Sensing Feeling, Perception -- personality, you'll discover a warm and vivacious person. The key to communicating with an ISFP is to patiently build rapport, according to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. These individuals are easygoing, deeply loyal and supportive. However, this same empathic nature makes them vulnerable to being easily hurt. Until trust is developed through one-on-one interactions, ISFPs exercise caution in new relationships. Observe how an ISFP communicates and then attempt a similar communication style.
Establish common ground. Initiate casual conversation with a personal comment such as, "That's a great tie," or "I couldn't help but notice what you're reading." This helps break the ice and sets an ISFP at ease.
Take your time. An ISFP is spontaneous and enjoys living presently. Carve unrestrained quality time and let conversation flow naturally. He will perceive rushed or forced conversation as pushy and confrontational and this will raise his guard.
Ask "how" questions. ISFPs are skilled listeners, often making whomever is talking feel like the most important person in the room. Because of their accommodating nature, ISFPs might be reluctant to offer information. Ask questions to help draw out their interests and let them know you value their insight.
Exercise patience. ISFPs are observant, thoughtful and considerate. They think before they speak and do not to force their opinions or values on others. Consequently, they might respond slowly or seem hesitant to make a decision.
Affirm and encourage. ISFPs are sensitive to criticism and might have difficulty expressing emotions, particularly negative ones. Praise and a judgment-free environment enable an ISFP to be openly expressive.
Specify. ISFPs don't do well with broad questions or general information. This is particularly important during a confrontation. Don't say, "You're such a slob!" Instead try, "Yesterday you left your dirty dishes on the coffee table and this morning, you left your dirty towels on the floor."
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- If communication with an ISFP breaks down, give her time and space to process. While ISFPs prefer to avoid conflict, their desire for a harmonious relationship will drive them toward resolution.
- Personality Desk Learning Center: ISFP Communication Style
- "Ministry Insights International"; Marriage Insights Workbook; John Trent, Ph.D.; 2001
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