Dating a bachelor can be fun and exciting, yet frustrating as well. Bachelors are used to living life at their own pace and on their own terms, and sometimes they can be a little like spoiled children who refuse to see things through anyone else's eyes. If you plan to date a bachelor, be ready for the roller coaster ride.
Be patient. Just like any other relationship, don't rush into one with a bachelor. It may scare him off. Remember he has not had to answer to anyone his entire life.
Talk to him. Ask him what his true intentions are with your relationship and what he hopes for at this point in his life. You don't have to strategically plan these talks, and they might come up when you least expect it.
Offer advice. Don't get frustrated with him if he doesn't do some things you expect a guy to do. They have been out of touch with the whole dating, or serious commitment, scene for a while. Remind yourself that eating canned food--straight from the can or leaving a toilet seat up isn't really that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. As long as he has the ability to act like an adult in front of others and treats people with respect, the rest is small stuff.
Be realistic about the relationship you are in. Don't blind yourself by thinking that everything he does is a facade and that eventually the man of your dreams will emerge from inside of him. Enjoy the person you are with and accept them for who they are and what they are willing to give you.
Don't scare off your new beau by constantly bringing up marriage or questioning his commitment to you and the relationship. This tactic may only frustrate your partner and drive him away from you. It can also create tension in the relationship if it's always on both of your minds.
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- Talk to your male friends about the relationship. Most men have a constant bachelor inside of them (just as many women have a part of them that never wants to get married) and if asked, they can probably dig deep enough to give you some useful advice on certain situations. However, they are still a different person than the one you are dating. Take all advice with a grain of salt.
- If the bachelor you are dating is significantly younger than you, he may also be significantly less interested in settling down. There are some men who are ready to make a commitment at a young age, but for the most part, they want to do some roaming before getting married or even making a commitment to a long-term exclusive relationship.