Dating comes with a rough start to many people primarily because of the nature of introductions. Every dater must introduce and relay information about themselves to an opposing person in an attempt to see if they're compatible. This can create a lot of problem areas as bad introductions can give poor information off of which someone is required to judge. Therefore, using a few tips and tactics can be extremely beneficial in this delicate area of dating.
Be Positive But Honest
An important key to introductions and a relationship in general is honestly. It is essential to be honest; however, you want to reveal yourself in the best possible light during introductions. This means being positive about yourself and your life, as well as displaying confidence. People naturally mimic your energy level. Therefore, it is important to remain upbeat when portraying yourself in the most flattering light.
Don't Reveal Too Much
Introductions in dating are much like introductions in a term paper--they serve to give a synopsis, but don't include every detail. You should never lie to people. However, many details are unnecessary when getting to know someone and should be revealed as the attraction builds during the dating process. This can include things from the number of times you've been divorced to your childhood elementary school teachers. Although these things might be important at some point in time, they are best left said after your date has developed a positive opinion of you.
Be Funny and Genuine
Wherever the introduction, being humorous and genuine is what will win the heart of your date. Humor serves as a great tension reliever when meeting someone. Not only can it be used on a first date, but it can also be a great introduction tool to meet someone you've never spoken to. A simple tease or joke can get you in the good graces of most people. Follow that up with a bit of genuine charm and you might be on your way to the altar.
Online dating is a unique circumstance where you might not be present for your introduction with someone else. However, this doesn't mean you have to work any less hard at it. The profile you build serves as the first introduction someone will get to see of you. It will be the "virtual you" and needs to express your best qualities effectively. Your goal should be to remain humorous and genuine, but this is also a time where you want to imply a lot without saying. For example, for your interests, you'll want to focus on the implication of potential interests by saying, "at the moment, I'm interested in..." Other areas include partying. Usually it is best to imply you enjoy having a good time without saying you like partying non-stop.
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