How to Deal With a Flirty Boss

by Cynthia Tucker

About Cynthia Tucker

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Cynthia Tucker has been writing since 1999. She owns a company that specializes in ghostwriting and editing services. She writes on topics such as finance, fitness, relationships, self-help, and spirituality. Tucker holds a Master of Arts in Biblical studies from Saint Pete Theological Seminary, and a Bachelor of Arts in English from the University of South Florida.

How to Deal With a Flirty Boss

All employees should respect their bosses, but that doesn't give your boss the right to disrespect you. Your job is important, but you must not allow him to violate your boundaries. A boss should not make inappropriate sexual comments or touch you in a manner that is not platonic. If he does, don't let the behavior continue. Failing to address the problem will only make it worse. You will continue feeling uncomfortable and will most likely be unproductive at work.

Step 1

Don't encourage the behavior. If you respond positively to your boss' flirting, he and your coworkers will think that you are OK with his behavior.

Step 2

Avoid spending time alone with your boss unless it's absolutely necessary. Try to meet with him in a group rather than by yourself. Keep your distance both mentally and physically, if you have to meet with him alone.

Step 3

Dress appropriately for your work environment. Avoid wearing anything that might encourage inappropriate behavior.

Step 4

Tell your boss that his behavior bothers you. While most people are afraid of doing this, it is the quickest way to address the problem. Indicate that you prefer to keep your work relationships separate from your personal relationships.

Step 5

Respond with tact if you want to keep your job. There is no need to be rude or make your boss feel bad. State how you feel in the most private and gentle way possible. Make it about you rather than about him. When you confront your boss, use the pronoun "I" rather than "you" to avoid being accusatory.

Step 6

Complain to the human resources department if nothing else works. Sexual harassment is against the law, and the company could fire your boss for this behavior.

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