How to Deal With Introvert Men

by Sam Grover

About Sam Grover

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Sam Grover began writing in 2005, also having worked as a behavior therapist and teacher. His work has appeared in New Zealand publications "Critic" and "Logic," where he covered political and educational issues. Grover graduated from the University of Otago with a Bachelor of Arts in history.

How to Deal With Introvert Men

Introverted men can be a little more difficult to talk to than extroverted men. This is because their natural inclination isn't to make conversation with everyone and make themselves the center of attention. However, if you take some time to get to know an introverted man and encourage him to come out of his shell, you will find that, underneath their exterior, introverted men have just as much to say as everyone else. It's just a matter of making them comfortable and encouraging them to talk.

Accept that, as an introvert, he is going to need time alone. Instead of forcing him to do things with you, you should try to focus on having more quality time with him, rather than quantity of time. If he wants to be alone, it's not a reflection on you. Rather, it's just the way he is, and he'll be happier when he is with you if you accept this fact.

Avoid interrupting him when he is deeply involved in something. Introverts throw themselves into things in a way that others don't. If he's giving a project his full attention, let him do so until he runs out of steam.

Talk to him about things he is passionate about. Introverts aren't opposed to talking. Rather, they just dislike idle chit-chat. Indeed, if you can get an introvert talking about something that he's interested in, you'll find it hard to make him stop talking.

Focus on small, intimate settings rather than large settings. Introverts will probably not like crowded bars or concerts, but will enjoy a quiet cup of coffee or dinner. If you do things that appeal to his introversion, it will be easier to connect with him.

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