Detrimental Dating Behaviors

by Jacob Queen

About Jacob Queen

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Jacob Queen has been a professional freelance content creator since 2009. He has written articles on a variety of subjects for several online publications. He is also a guitarist, screenwriter and amateur filmmaker with more than 10 years of experience in each field. Queen studied English composition and literature at Truett-McConnell College.

Detrimental Dating Behaviors

Some common dating behaviors are extremely detrimental to a happy dating life. Some of these come from a sincere attempt to impress someone, but they end up having the opposite effect. Your mileage will vary from one dating partner to the next, but avoiding these behaviors usually helps you make a better impression.

Being Late

There are many reasons people end up being late for dates. Sometimes they're simply trying to look their best and spend too much time at home in front of the mirror, and sometimes they get caught up in extraneous stuff that slows them down. In either case, being late creates a bad impression. When you're late, it puts your date in a bad mood from the start and that initial irritation could ruin everything.

Dishonesty

Everybody wants to impress when they're on a date, but you should avoid overdoing it with dishonest claims. Sure, it may make you look good in the short run, but eventually you're probably going to have to tell the truth. Some people are particularly good at recognizing when people exaggerate, and they're likely to see right through your ruse.

Self-Centered Conversation

When you're on a date, you obviously feel a need to tell your date a little about yourself, but don't monopolize the conversation with constant descriptions of your past and exploits. This makes your date feel that you have no interest in their lives. You need to make sure the conversation is more evenly balanced, and if you feel like you're the only one talking, that's probably a bad sign.

Talking about Previous Relationships

Most of the time, the last thing your date wants to hear is a lot of talk about your past relationships. It makes them feel like you're still in the middle of another relationship, and it shows that your focus is still on something in your past instead of your future, which gives a bad impression.

Moving Too Fast

It's wise to move things slowly, especially in the beginning. If you immediately start talking about being in love or start pressuring your date toward a physical relationship, it can make things uncomfortable. This is the kind of thing you have to play by ear because people have their own personal tolerances and expectations, but a conservative approach usually works better in most situations.

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