The Disadvantages of Dating Older Men

The Disadvantages of Dating Older Men

by Erin Schreiner

About Erin Schreiner

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Erin Schreiner is a freelance writer and teacher who holds a bachelor's degree from Bowling Green State University. She has been actively freelancing since 2008. Schreiner previously worked for a London-based freelance firm. Her work appears on eHow, Trails.com and RedEnvelope. She currently teaches writing to middle school students in Ohio and works on her writing craft regularly.

Some love-lorn singles find that their knight in shining armor is a bit more advanced in age than they are. If you think that the man of your dreams may be several -- or more -- years older than you, it is wise to consider the complications that could come along with this man of advanced age. While these disadvantages don't necessarily mean that you shouldn't give that older guy a shot, you should allow them to weigh into your decision making process.

Bundles of Baggage

The older the man, the more likely he is to be weighed down with baggage. If your guy has several previous marriages under his belt, and perhaps even a gaggle of kids to which to tend, your casual romance may be anything but. To determine how much impact your guy's relationship past is going to have on your future together, be on the look-out for issues created by his baggage from the start. If his past relationships appear to complicate his life greatly, be sure you are ready to handle this added relationship stress.

Lack of Shared Experiences

If you grew up in the neon-clothing-rich 80s, you may have little in common with the silver-fox you have your eye on. If the guy you desire has memories of where he was the day Kennedy was assassinated, and you don't even remember the Challenger disaster, your love affair may suffer from a lack of shared experiences. While this lack of shared experiences won't necessarily spell relationship failure, it can be an issue when you try to connect, as your connecting fibers may be few and far between.

Different Interests

Age doesn't dictate interests, but it can certainly have an impact. If your man is into old movies and classical music, and you prefer catching a contemporary horror flick and rocking out to the Black Eyed Peas, your relationship may be doomed to failure. If the difference in ages between you and your man leaves you with few shared interests, it may be difficult for you to decide upon activities that you both enjoy, leading to a strained relationship.

Energy Level Discrepancy

While some older men have energy that rivals their younger counterparts, others simply lack this exuberance. If you most enjoy staying out late, engaging in physically demanding activities or dancing the night away, a low-energy older man may not be the best partner for you. While dating an older man doesn't necessarily mean that your guy will tire quickly, you may be more likely to struggle with this issue.

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