Early Dating Tips

Early Dating Tips

by Spencer Hendricks

About Spencer Hendricks

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Spencer Hendricks has written for various well-regarded blogs. His work has appeared in the "Kickapoo Prairie News" and online at sprayahen.com and Spencer Vs. The Food Industry. He is currently in the process of obtaining a degree in Web development.

Dating is an awkward and often intimidating process for some, especially over the course of the first few dates while the couple is still getting a feel for each other. A successful first date typically leads to future dates, and if the trend continues, the couple may find themselves in the middle of a burgeoning relationship before too long. Heeding a few tips early in the dating process may make all the difference between finding true love and continually searching for the next first date.

Focus on Positive Aspects

Don't dwell on small, negative details about your date. Instead, keep a positive outlook and focus on all the things you like about the person. Giving in to feelings of negativity early on just sets an unpleasant tone for the future of the potential relationship. Avoid letting trivial issues get in the way of what could otherwise turn into a long-lasting relationship.

Be Open and Honest

Establish trust from the outset of the courtship by being truthful and upfront. If you still keep a close friendship with an ex, give your new romantic interest full disclosure before she figures it out on her own and concludes that you are holding out on her. This way, a couple gets in the habit of trusting each other with important matters right away.

Start Fresh

Beginning the process of dating someone new requires your most sincere efforts to make the experience pleasant for both parties. If you still find yourself feeling bitter or sad about your last relationship, you might want to consider taking some more time off before getting back into the dating game. Otherwise, you only worsen your own feelings and shortchange your date in the process.

Avoid Discussions of the Future Until It's Time

The dating process, no matter how well it's going, is primarily a casual phase of the possible relationship to follow. Even if you feel confident in the future with your new romantic interest, be mindful of what topics you discuss. Planning out future dates and get-togethers is fine once a mutual interest in established, but bringing up the prospect of moving in or marriage may put unnecessary strain on the blooming romance.

Avoid Unrealistic Expectations

Even the very best of relationships have conflicts in addition to varying levels of passion and intimacy that gradually change over time. When you start dating someone new and the fun seems like it will never end, remember that no person is perfect and neither is any relationship. Problems do appear, differences do come up and in time, the shine of a new romance wears off. Remembering that real life romance is different from fairy tale romance is an effective way to avoid a letdown later on.

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