How to Flirt With a Nerdy Guy

by Carl Hose

About Carl Hose

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About Carl Hose Carl's work has appeared in the zombie anthology Cold Storage, which he co-edited. His work has also appeared in Champagne Shivers 2007, DeathGrip: It Came from the Cinema, DeathGrip: Exit Laughing, the horror-romance anthology Loving the Undead, the erotic paranormal ghost anthology Beyond Desire, and several issues of Lighthouse Digest. Carl's nonfiction has appeared in The Blue Review and Writer's Journal. Carl lives in Georgia with his lovely fiancee Marcella and their two boys (with a baby on the way). You can visit his web site, Writer’s Inkwell, at

The stereotypical nerdy guy is often viewed as less physical and more cerebral than other guys. Nerdy guys are often perceived as less cool and not as likely to attract flirtation from women. But this isn't always the case. Some women are attracted to this type of guy. Because nerdy guys may not expect to be flirted with, you may need to apply more obvious tactics to get a nerdy guy to take the hint.

Step 1

Approach a nerdy guy directly. Some nerdy guys may be unaccustomed to having women flirt with them, so it may take a direct comment to get the message across. Tell him you think he is cute. Be sincere. Nerdy guys are sometimes the target of unwarranted negative jokes in social settings, so the guy you approach may be wary.

Step 2

Express interest in the things that interest the nerdy guy. These may be subjects you aren't typically interested in but may find interesting to learn about. Open the door for his input. Show your interest sincerely and drop little flirtatious hints while you learn. Sitting close to him while he talks about his interests is one way. Subtle contact, such as a brush of your hand against his or your arm touching his while he speaks, may work.

Step 3

Ask for his phone number and call him out of the blue. He may be too shy to approach you. Take the lead and follow up on your initial approach to show you are serious about your interest in him. If you want to take it further, choose a date activity that fits his personality and ask him out.

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  • Avoid pretending to be nerdy yourself. Though this may work initially, you will eventually be found out and you'll risk making the guy you're interested in feel that you've played with him.