How to Flirt When You Are Older

by David Ferris

About David Ferris

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David Ferris started writing professionally in 2006 and has been published in several newspapers. He has worked in a variety of fields including education and law. He strives to one day be an authority on all subjects, great and small. Ferris has a Bachelor of Arts in political science.

How to Flirt When You Are Older

Humans need love at any age. While once older individuals were expected not to maintain a love life after a certain age, 21st century seniors are increasingly enjoying the pleasures of flirting, dating and relationships. Many of the rules of flirting remain the same as people age, though some key age-appropriate adjustments are critical as well. Flirting when older is a combination of warm gestures, self-confidence, looking sharp and communicating your interest.

Maintain self-confidence. Just because you're older, doesn't mean you have to be inhibited about flirting or about your desire for love, sex or attention. Projecting self-confidence is an effective flirting tactic at any age.

Dress well. Aging takes a natural, unavoidable toll on one's body, but dressing well can help keep you looking good. Moreover, it clearly signals that you care about your appearance, which many consider an appealing trait. Wear nice, clean clothes appropriate for the occasion.

Remain socially active. Engaging in different social activities not only provides you with a variety of outlets in which to flirt and meet people, it also keeps your social skills sharp and gives you more to talk about when you do encounter someone with whom you'd like to flirt.

Avoid masquerading as someone you're not. Mitigating the effects of age with a bit of makeup is acceptable, but trying to fit into clothes that looked good on you at a younger age and no longer do is not attractive. An older man or woman who is accepting of his or her age is sexier than someone who seems to be in denial about it.

Engage in affectionate gestures and playful touching. This is a time-tested flirting tactic that works well for the old and young alike. Respect normal boundaries and the fact that not everyone is comfortable being touched, but don't let age scare you off from the kind of light-hearted touching and innocent yet flirty contact that expresses interest and makes people feel desired. Older people (especially those who haven't dated in a while) may particularly crave the affectionate contact of someone else.

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References (1)

  • "Love Stories of Later Life;" Amanda Barusch; 2008

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