Some people look for love on the Internet during their coffee break or rely on friends and family to keep an eye open. One of the revolutions in match-making is called speed-dating. Speed-dating events bring an equal number of men and women to a bar or restaurant and give each person five minutes with another person before meeting the person at the next table.
Speed dating can be more stressful than a first date or even approaching someone at a bar. The reason is you only have a limited time to make a great impression and you know you are competing with a room full of others being given the same opportunity. This audition atmosphere can cause you to fumble with words and questions. Take a breath and relax. The worst that can happen is you move on to the next table. Have fun and incorporate some silly questions. Ask a guy whether you can bring your friends on the first date. Ask how they feel about having a GPS chip inserted into their neck. Know that you risk sounding like a stalker or weirdo, but if you keep it light and emphasize you are joking around, it can cut the tension for both of you.
Be a Character
You have nothing to lose when speed dating. Especially if the person sitting across from you is not someone you are desperate to impress. If that is the case, you have five minutes to be a character and create an outrageous life for yourself. Yes this can seem cruel, especially if the person falls madly in love with a false identity or realizes that you are merely blowing them off. But sometimes you need to keep your energy up for the next person who might be the one you are interested in. If you've sat through five minutes of agony, it might be hard to snap yourself out of the rut and be on your game.
If you meet someone who you want to stay in touch with, you might want to create a fun calling card that you can leave with them. Don't give them a traditional business card that makes the entire date seem more like a job interview than a dating prospect. Have some fun. Girls can give guys a name and number with a photo on the card so they remember who you are. On the back, do something fun like have a miniature survey. Perhaps you ask them to provide a background history, review the five-minute date on a scale of 1-10 in several categories or just give them a coupon for a hug. Guys can have fun with a calling card as well. You can put your stats on the back along with your favorite activities. You might try a help wanted ad on the back that describes your ideal woman. Keep it fun and you will find more success on your speed dating endeavors.
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