How to Give a Crush Space

by Naomi Baldinger

About Naomi Baldinger

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Naomi Baldinger began writing professionally in 2007. Her areas of expertise include cooking, literature, film, Jewish culture, the nonprofit sector, education and translation. Her work has appeared in "Git Nu" and "The Journal of Jewish Identities" among other publications. Baldinger holds a Master of Arts in comparative literature from the University of California, Los Angeles.

How to Give a Crush Space

A crush can be exciting and frustrating at the same time. You're so excited about the person you're crushing on that you want to call all the time, hang out every minute and share every detail. However, this kind of behavior can come off as obsessive and actually scare away your crush. One crucial skill to master if you'd like your crush to reciprocate is to give the person some space. Remember that you have a full life outside of your crush, and don't let it fall to the wayside.

Step 1

Lay off the phone calls and texts. Limit yourself to initiating contact, whether it's by phone, text, email or chat, to once a day. Some days, let your crush be the one to initiate contact. Think of it this way: The next time the two of you talk, you'll have so many more interesting and new things to discuss.

Step 2

Don't keep tabs. A new crush will feel threatened if you constantly need to know her whereabouts. Avoid asking her daily where she's going and with whom. Don't plan on finding out where she will be and "accidentally" running into her -- this type of maneuver is transparent and might lead her to think that you're stalking her.

Step 3

Distract yourself. You had friends, hobbies and other commitments when you met him, so don't let those things slide. Make plans to do things that don't involve him several times a week so that he also has the chance to see his friends and pursue the things he likes. Resist the temptation to text him throughout the night.

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