How to Get a Guy to Invite You Over

by Contributing Writer

Guys are simple creatures, but it can still be frustrating trying to get them to do what you want. Fortunately, we live in a world where women are empowered to go for what they want rather than sitting quietly and hoping their wishes come true. A guy may not even realize you want to spend time with him at his place until you bring it up. The easiest way to get a guy to invite you over is to suggest the idea to him in a way that will make it nearly impossible for him to say no.

Remember to be yourself and be cool and casual during the conversation. It should never sound like you're begging to come over to his place. Be confident and approach the situation with success in mind.

Come up with a reason why you want to come over. Don't just say, "I was thinking I could come over on Friday." He's not going to know your reasoning for wanting to come over and will be more likely to turn you down. Use direct language, such as, "How about homemade lasagna and the new James Bond movie at your place Friday night?" If he accepts, but suggests hanging out at your place, have an excuse in mind for why you have to hang out at his place. "My DVD player broke last week and I haven't had time to get it repaired."

Give him ample notice before the proposed hangout time. If you call him up a few hours before you want to hang out, he may say no due to prior plans or because his apartment is messy.

Be clear about when you plan on arriving and leaving. Tell him you have a commitment and will need to leave his place by a certain time. If he thinks there's a chance you might show up with your suitcase trying to stay the weekend, he'll be more apt to shut your dinner-and-a-movie suggestion down.

Get him involved in the plans, but don't put him to work. Ask him if he has any dessert requests, but don't ask him to buy half the ingredients for the dinner.

Casually confirm the date ahead of time to make sure the plans are still on. A simple text letting him know you're looking forward to hanging out is sufficient.

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Tips

  • If you made dinner at his house, leave the kitchen cleaner than when you arrived. He's not going to want to have you over again if he has to spend the next hour scraping bits of lasagna off the bottom of a pan.
  • If the guy doesn't seem interested in your suggestion to get together at his place, let it go and move on.
  • If this is a guy you've been seeing for awhile, but he's refused to have you over, there's a chance he's hiding something. Ask him directly why he doesn't want you to see his place.