Feeling a little down in the dumps 'cause it's a Saturday night and it seems the whole world is paired off except you? Well, snap out of it. With a new attitude and a plan in place, you'll soon be feeling so fine and full of yourself you'll realize that a man is just the icing on the cake.
Make the most of your career or find a new one. If the career track you are presently following leaves you a little less than thrilled, change it. If the position for senior copy writer suddenly becomes available, go for it. If your dream is to be a writer, don't dream, write. The idea is not to wait for the sudden appearance of "Mr. Wonderful" to make you happy or give you confidence. True self confidence comes from personal achievement, and in today's competitive world, personal achievement is often defined by having a successful career. So if your 9 to 5 job is starting to feel like 9 to infinity, then it's time to kick that job to the curb and find a new one.
Take the time to decorate your living space the way you always wanted. Make the space you are living in as perfect as you can. Do not deny yourself that antique white Victorian lace comforter thinking that you would rather buy it when you have a conjugal bed to put it on. Remember, this is your retreat from the outside world and whatever items catch your eye should immediately occupy a loving place in your home without a moment's thought or hesitation.
Look for quality friendships, not quantity. Friends are the people that add color and excitement to our lives. Unfortunately, it is in times of sorrow or need that most friendships are severely tested. Therefore, when choosing someone as a potential pal, it is best to remember that a friend is more than just someone to hang out with. True friends give you the nurturing when you need to grow and the courage when it's best to stay the same.
Think of dating as an adventure. The secret to happy dating is to not have any expectations. Do not think of this man as a potential lover, potential husband, potential friend or potential anything. Just think of him as someone that you have never met before and, just like Mata Hari, your goal is to learn all you can about him. Then slowly go on from there and soon you just may find yourself to be pleasantly surprised.
Have fun with your appearance. Being single is the one time when you can change your appearance as often as some people change their underwear and you don't have to be concerned with someone else's opinion. So, if you are a brunette and always wanted to try life as a blonde, now is the time to do it. If you have long flowing hair and want to try a short, sassy cut, then run to that barbershop and tell him to clip away. If the results are less than wonderful, no one will be there to remind you and no one will ever have to know -- that's why they invented hats. If, however, you turn out looking absolutely fabulous, then go out there and paint the town.
Control your spending habits. As a single woman, you only have yourself to rely on for financial support, so getting a handle on your expenses is vital. For many women, the idea of curbing their spending habits seems as unlikely as marrying Johnny Depp. However, all you really need is the determination to pay all your present bills, the awareness of how you spend your money every month and the discipline to think before you purchase. Once you master these skills, you'll see your bank account filling up in no time.
Indulge in some private time. Private time not only allows you to recoup your energy, but if spent properly, you can make yourself feel quite pampered. Before you can "take care of business," you need to take care of yourself. Set aside at least an hour per day to do so. Some ideal private time "escapes" include: taking a long bubble bath, listening to your favorite CD over and over or treating yourself to breakfast in bed.
Work that body. A healthy body is the key to looking and feeling beautiful. Nothing encourages a beautiful body more than exercise. Along with toning you physically, exercise also tones you mentally. Even after a mild workout, creativity levels soar -- all the more reason to exercise. So whether you prefer low-impact aerobics or a 12-mile jog, get moving.
Expand your horizons. In today's fast-paced society, knowledge is the way to get ahead. And nowhere is knowledge more beneficial than in the lives of single women. Whether learning about the latest tax shelter or checking out the latest art exhibit, the more you know, the more productive your life can be. Of course another good reason for acquiring knowledge is the way you will feel both fulfilled and confident. So read newspapers, watch at least two news shows per week, go to a museum or take a class.
Appreciate all the really wonderful things you are. Before you can receive love, you need to feel love -- love of self. Love of self happens when you accept yourself for who you are -- the good and the not so good. While it is easy to appreciate your good qualities, it is when you are thinking negatively that the following words must be remembered: you are special and you deserve the best that life has to offer.
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