How to Make a List of Values and Qualities You Want in a Man

How to Make a List of Values and Qualities You Want in a Man

by Mark Nero

About Mark Nero

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Mark Nero has been a professional journalist since 1995 and has written for numerous publications within and outside the U.S. His work has appeared in "The Boston Globe," "San Diego Union-Tribune" and "Los Angeles Daily News" among others. Nero studied communications at San Diego State University.

If you're looking for Mr. Right, it's good to have a clear picture in your mind of who exactly Mr. Right should be. And that's one of the reasons why making, keeping and referring to a list of the values and qualities that you want in a man can be helpful. Referring to such a list when dating a man can be help you avoid falling for a guy whose charms might mask the fact that he's not the one for you.

Items you will need

  • Writing utensil
  • Paper
Step 1

Sit down and think of all the men you've known and admired during your life -- not just people you've known personally, but also people you have a good deal of admiration for. Think about the reasons you admire them, and write down on a piece of paper those attractive qualities and values.

Step 2

Get input from friends and family. Sometimes the people close to you can know you better than you know yourself. Even if you think you may already have the foundation of a good list of desirable values and qualities that you want in a man, it's possible that someone else can chime in with a good suggestion or two that suits your tastes and way of thinking.

Step 3

Write down all the qualities you came up with on a single, prioritized sheet of paper. Combine your initial list with the suggestions offered by your friends, family and others. Make the list as long as you care to, but prioritize it with the most important values and qualities at the top, and the least important ones at the bottom.

Step 4

Narrow the list down to just the most important items, then place those values and qualities on another piece of paper. If there's anything from the preliminary lists that you know wouldn't truly hinder a relationship with a man, don't put it on this final list. The final is list is primarily for must-have qualities that a man needs, not optional qualities that may appear on initial versions of the list.

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Tip

  • The same above can be used for men to make a list of values and qualities they are looking for in a woman

Warning

  • The longer your final list is, it's likely the more difficult it will likely be to find a man who meets your full criteria.

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