How to Look More Confident in Yourself When Dating

How to Look More Confident in Yourself When Dating

by Sam Grover

About Sam Grover

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Sam Grover began writing in 2005, also having worked as a behavior therapist and teacher. His work has appeared in New Zealand publications "Critic" and "Logic," where he covered political and educational issues. Grover graduated from the University of Otago with a Bachelor of Arts in history.

Confidence is the key to dating. If you look and act confident, you will appear more attractive, which will make your dating more successful. Luckily, artificial confidence and actual confidence are essentially indistinguishable. If you act confident, you will seem confident, and the way people respond to you will actually make you confident. So, to become more confident and more successful at dating, take a few key steps to boost your self esteem and improve how you relate to the world around you.

Open your body language. This means uncrossing your arms and legs and looking your date in the eye. This will show that you have the confidence to meet her head-on and actively engage with her. If you do the converse, though, you will appear less confident and standoffish.

Think about a time when you felt confident and sure of yourself. Alternatively, think of a time when you felt happy; ideally, you will be able to think of a situation that both criteria apply to. If you do this, your date will sense that you feel good about yourself, and you will appear more confident.

Wear an outfit that you feel good in. You may feel like you need to dress the way you think your date expects you to dress, but if you don't feel like yourself in an outfit he will be able to sense it and you will feel less confident. So, dress in an outfit that, when you look in a mirror, you are proud of who you see looking back at you.

Stand up straight. A confident person is not ashamed of how they look or who they are, and therefore stands up straight and tall. Don't try to hide by hunkering down into yourself.

Imagine you've been on this date before. If you pretend that it's not new to you, you will feel more at ease and confident with the situation.

Ask yourself how you'd move, speak and generally interact with people if you were incredibly confident. Then, do it. It doesn't matter if you actually are confident. You just need to seem confident to date successfully.

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