Navigating the dating world can be a daunting journey for even the most seasoned of daters. There are more women in the world than men, so the odds are stacked against you. Complicating the matter is the fact that women are strange, unpredictable creatures that require care and consideration. Oftentimes men will say or do the wrong thing on a date without even realizing it, only to continue irking woman after woman with the same irritating behavior. Fortunately, by following a few simple dating tips, you can avoid heartbreak and secure that second date.
Many women say punctuality is one of the most important traits they look for when they first start dating someone. Arriving on time isn't just about the time itself, but it is a reflection on how much you value your date. Arrive early and try not to be too discouraged at the double standard that dictates that she will probably be more than a few minutes late.
Keep the content of compliments appropriate for the situation and how well you know each other. Sexual innuendo is not always appropriate during the first date and never appropriate around family members. Remember, compliments must be sincere. Women can usually tell when a man doesn't mean what he says. Don't go overboard, though -- too many compliments may make her suspicious.
Many relationships are made or broken depending on a man's ability to listen. There's nothing worse than being on a date with someone who can't stop talking about themselves. Ask questions. Express an interest in her hobbies, activities, upbringing, likes and dislikes. While a woman wants to know more about you, she also wants you to get to know her.
Don't be a jerk. Don't offend or deride minority groups, cultural customs, sexual orientations, occupations, lifestyle choices, races or organizations like colleges. Although you may have some controversial beliefs, keep quiet until you and your date get to know each other better.
Don't show up for a date wearing flip-flops and a tank top if the plans are to go for dinner. Always shower before a date and wear antiperspirant deodorant. Wear cologne, but don't go overboard. Shave, brush your teeth, use hair gel and wear clean clothes. Personal hygiene tips may sound obvious, but most women have a horror story about a date with a man who forgot to do one or more of these things.
Body language is so important when it comes to giving women the right signal. Not maintaining eye contact while she's talking makes a woman think you're not listening. Not maintaining eye contact while you're talking to her will make her think you're being deceitful. Nod and smile to encourage her to keep talking. Face your body towards her and don't slouch. Don't let your eyes stray to other parts of her body -- she will notice.
Be a Gentleman
While some women think chivalry is outdated, it's best to play it safe when you first start dating someone. Open doors for her, pull out her chair, and offer her your jacket if she seems cold. Small romantic gestures can go a long way -- bring her flowers or chocolates on the first date. Always offer to pay for her meal, but don't insist if she refuses. Most women don't expect a man to pay for everything during a date, but they do expect an offer. Be polite not just to your date, but to waitstaff and bartenders. Snapping your fingers in the air to get the attention of your waitress, for example, will not impress your date.
The most important men's dating tip is to just be yourself. If you are not particularly romantic or aren't a fan of fine dining, don't fake it. Plan a date that includes your interests as well as hers. If she wants to go to an opera and you know that opera bores you to tears, suggest a live show instead. Don't talk yourself up or pretend you're someone you're not. Being yourself is the best way to find out if you are compatible for each other and saves a lot of time and effort in the long run.
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