How to Be Patient in a New Relationship

by Sheri Lamb

About Sheri Lamb

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Sheri Lamb has been a reporter since 2006 in community newspapers throughout Canada. While she has covered virtually every beat associated with community newspapers, Lamb specializes in sports. In addition to her skills as a reporter, Lamb holds a certificate in computer programming. She also runs a small catering company.

How to Be Patient in a New Relationship

Being patient in a relationship when you really like someone can be daunting. You don't want to seem like you are too into the person, so you go through conventions such as waiting two or three days before calling them and not being intimate with them until at least the third date, for example. A few techniques can help you resist the temptation to take things further right away, but some people choose to just go with their gut.

Distractions

Occupying yourself with activities without your partner can relieve the anticipation before calling them for another date or waiting for them to call you. Even if you are constantly thinking about your partner but you want to be patient, finding another activity will distract you from the thought of them. Sometimes waiting for the next contact can be like waiting for Christmas morning when you were a child, but it could keep them interested in you.

Put the Situation into Perspective

Taking a moment to put the relationship into perspective will help you realize what the next step should be. If you have only dated a person a few times but you want to see them every moment, you are probably feeling infatuation, not love. While it is difficult for many people to be rational in relationships, taking the time to realize that you need to know someone better before taking the next step can improve your patience.

Intimacy

Finding the nonsexual joys in your partner can help you be patient if you are waiting for the right time to sleep with them. Avoiding any intimate situations so that you can prevent the temptation will help you avoid feeling overwhelmed with impatient desire. On a date, for example, go for a walk in the park or go out for dinner. Ending the date without inviting your partner inside will decrease your desire and help you be more patient.

Follow Your Impulses Instead

When you feel like you want to go against the conventions of waiting for a few days to call or wait for him to call, follow your impulses. He may feel the same way and want to see you right away. This is passionate and what many consider love to be all about. Whether you are waiting for a conversation or a text about a second or third date, go ahead and be impulsive. Many people in relationships are relieved when the other person gets straight to the point.

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