The Pitfalls of Internet Dating

The Pitfalls of Internet Dating

by Jacob Queen

About Jacob Queen

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Jacob Queen has been a professional freelance content creator since 2009. He has written articles on a variety of subjects for several online publications. He is also a guitarist, screenwriter and amateur filmmaker with more than 10 years of experience in each field. Queen studied English composition and literature at Truett-McConnell College.

Internet dating has become more popular as technology has advanced, and it offers many advantages. For example, you have a wider pool of people to choose from, and many services offer to match you with potential mates. Unfortunately, there are also some potential downsides and various pitfalls that are specific to online dating.

Dishonesty

There is a lot of leeway to post dishonest information about yourself online. For example, people may lie about their age, height, or background. A lot of this happens in traditional dating too, but some people are more comfortable using deception in the context of the Internet because they feel more anonymous. It's also tougher to spot dishonesty online because a lot of information is exchanged by viewing people's profiles. In real life, you can look the person in the eye when you meet him for the first time, making it easier to assess his honesty.

Visual Deception

Another problem with online dating is the deceptiveness of photography. People take pictures of themselves from all sorts of angles, and sometimes people can make themselves look more attractive than they actually are. People also often use outdated pictures that show them when they were much younger. If you're attracted to somebody primarily because of her looks, you might want to ask to see a few more pictures to make sure you're not being deceived.

Lack of Physical Presence

Dating involves a lot of information that isn't necessarily conveyed verbally. People express themselves with their posture and their facial expressions. People are also attracted or repelled for reasons that can't be conveyed without spending some actual time with a person. For example, you may find that a person's voice is especially attractive, or something about the way an individual smiles. Online, you don't have access to this information, so you might make assumptions about attractiveness that aren't true.

Missed Opportunities

Another problem with online dating is that it can sometimes be too easy to dismiss someone. Sometimes when searching for romance online, it can seem as if there is an unlimited pool of people to choose from, and you might be compelled to wait for somebody who's absolutely perfect. As a result, you might dismiss perfectly good partners with minor flaws that wouldn't be a problem in a more traditional dating situation.

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