The Pitfalls of Young Women Dating Older Men

by Natalie Baker

About Natalie Baker

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Based in Manchester, U.K., Natalie Baker has been a freelance beauty and fashion writer since 2009. Her work appears in the beauty pages of "The Detour Magazine" and online at Just Makeup Artists. Baker is experienced in both television and print journalism, and holds a Bachelor of Arts broadcast journalism from Salford University.

The Pitfalls of Young Women Dating Older Men


Everyone has different opinions when it comes to an age gap in a relationship. Although a difference of a few years may go unnoticed, a larger age gap may pose potential pitfalls. Relationships vary between couples; however, some common problems may arise in relationships where a younger woman is dating an older man. Dating an older guy may have its positives, but you need to ensure that you have enough room to do your own growing as a person.

Different Aspirations

During different periods of your life you have different priorities. In your twenties you may be focusing on paying off your student loans, establishing your career or thinking about starting a family. The chances are an older guy has already done these things. It is important in a relationship that you understand each other's aspirations and dreams so there are no big surprises further along the line. If you want to marry in the future but your man does not, this could create irresolvable issues.

Energy and Health

It is an unpleasant fact that as we mature, our health and energy also decline. Although not every older guy suffers with medical problems, the older he gets the more likely he will. If there is a 20-year age gap, you must be prepared to deal with his problems, too. Older men may snore louder or have aches and pains. This may not be compatible with your young, carefree lifestyle.

Growing out of the Relationship

As we grow older our needs change. An older guy is likely to have established who he is as a person and what he wants from a potential partner. However, what you think you want in your late teens may not be the same as what you require when you hit 30. The novelty of dating an older guy may no longer appeal as much as you age or as your lifestyle changes.

Excess Baggage

Often dating an older guy not only involves the man himself but his ex-wife and/or children. Taking on a step family may be part of the package and could cause additional stresses and pressures, both on yourself and the relationship. Dating an older man can come with a whole host of excess baggage, such as your new partner still going through a divorce, arguing with his ex or having difficulties with the children.

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