Minimize the awkwardness of being in a situation where you have no interest in reciprocating a romantic interest by politely informing your date that you are not interested in him. Irrespective of whether you are dating online, on phone or have already had your first or second face-to-face date, you can be direct while expressing your disinterest to the guy. Be honest and firm, but show compassion while telling the guy that you are not romantically attracted to him and would like to discontinue the relationship.
Do not refrain from telling the guy you are dating that you are not interested in the relationship because of the discomfort involved in doing so. Instead, you should be honest and make a decision to inform the guy, even if it will cause you both some pain and unpleasantness. Failing to be honest and delaying to inform the guy of your disinterest will only prolong an unfruitful relationship in which you do not intend to make any long-term commitment.
Use Proper Communication Channels
Consider the channel of communication that you will use to tell the guy of your decision to end the relationship. Choose your communication channel depending upon how far your relationship had progressed. For example, if your dating was solely online, you can send a short email to the guy. On the other hand, if you went out with the guy on a couple of dates, use the phone or even face-to-face communication, if your relationship was much deeper.
Be Firm Yet Compassionate
While you don’t owe the guy a detailed explanation of why you are disinterested in him, you should avoid being defensive or dismissive of the relationship. Instead, show firmness and compassion by telling him that it is as difficult for you to convey your disinterest in him, as it is for him to hear it. Let him know that it was a pleasure to meet him and that you don’t believe that you are the right person for him. Wish him all the best in finding the right mate.
You must put a stop to all forms of contact with the guy once you have told him that you are not interested in him, or in taking the relationship forward. Whether it is by email, phone or in-person communication, you should put an end to every method of communicating with him. By failing to stop communicating and permitting him to contact you, you will only prolong the relationship and frustrate your initial aim to amicably end it.
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