Problems Dating Controlling Men

Problems Dating Controlling Men

by Cindy Roussos

About Cindy Roussos

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Based in the Deep South, Cindy Roussos has been a full-time writer since 2004. Her work has appeared in such print publications as "Chicken Soup for the Soul" and online at websites such as FamilyTravelFun.com. Roussos graduated summa cum laude with a Bachelor of Arts degree from the University of South Alabama.

When you first begin to date a new guy, you may not notice any signs of controlling behavior. However, the longer you are with your boyfriend, you may start to see indications of a controlling personality. If he seeks to control too much of your life or if his controlling behavior begins to alarm you, then you will need to immediately re-evaluate the relationship.

Jealousy

A controlling man will often feel very jealous in the relationship. He will not want you to be around other men, and he may even try to limit your interactions with your friends (both male and female). He will want to be the priority in your life, and he may apply pressure to get you to shift your focus to him.

Trust Issues

A controlling partner may often question your actions and not take your word at face value. He will wonder what you are doing when you are not with him, and he will be concerned that you may be seeing another man. A controlling boyfriend may call frequently to check up on you and to confirm your location. If you do not arrive on time for a scheduled meeting, he can become angry very quickly.

Controlling Many Aspects of Your Life

A controlling man may begin to tell you which clothes you should and should not wear. He may use the excuse that your clothes are too sexy, and he will select another outfit that he finds more suitable. Some controlling men will even try to pick out the food you eat. If you feel that your boyfriend is trying to dictate too much, you need to communicate with him immediately and maintain your independence.

Few Other Interests

A controlling boyfriend may fixate only on the relationship. He may give up his other hobbies or interests because he wants to spend all of his time with you. Because he has given up his activities, he will want you to do the same thing. However, it is important to maintain your individuality. Controlling behavior should be addressed as quickly as possible. If your partner is willing to work on his behavior, you can enter couples therapy in an attempt to mend your relationship. If he will not seek assistance, your only choice may be to end the relationship.

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