Problems With Dating a Single Dad

by Nanette Delaney Burton Google

About Nanette Delaney Burton

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Nanette Delaney Burton, mother of three, began writing professionally in 2004. She holds a Bachelor of Arts from the University of California, San Diego in political science (American politics and law; minor in psychology). Burton is currently working on her Juris Doctorate.

Uncertainties and complications are a natural part of a new relationship, and either encourage couples to get to know each other further or ultimately end the relationship due to incompatibilities. Dating a single parent adds further problems in a new relationship. Views on the list of "problems" when dating a single dad will vary and may depend on whether or not the other party is a single parent also.

Dating a Single Dad

Just because a man is a father, does not mean he is looking for a mother for his child. Some dads, however, may use this assessment to quickly narrow the dating field. Others are comfortable with their current situation as is or are looking for simple physical gratification (or just plain sex) and prefer to keep an emotional distance from their dates.

Life Lessons

Men that have kids obviously have some sort of history. Although this may cause bitterness and distance from new women in some single dads, many have learned from these experiences what they want (or don't) in a woman, and how to manage different scenarios and events.

Separation

Most single parents prefer to keep their social life and their parenting circles separate and may choose to not introduce their children to dates, but rather reserve this meeting for serious long-term relationships. Approaching this topic early on when dating a single father will prevent discomfort or confusion and perhaps questions later on.

The Other Woman

Unless the single dad is widowed, there will be another woman in the relationship. Understanding that his ex is the mother of his child (or children) is important, and this is one situation where a positive relationship with the other woman should be encouraged. Do not let jealousy, resentment or fear of their past or present interactions play a role when dating a single father, as these emotions will only interfere negatively in your relationship.

Morals

Single dads that have family values and a strong sense of morals will put their children first. What this means when dating can vary from infrequent dates due to juggling schedules and perhaps cancellation of anticipated dates when family plans change. But, dads that prioritize their family may just be a better date because of these beliefs and therefore just might be worth their weight after all.

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