Pros & Cons of Dating Older Women

by Jody Wilber

About Jody Wilber

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Based in Las Vegas, Jody Wilber has been freelance writing since 2004. Her articles have appeared in "Christianity Today," "The Upper Room" and "The Review Journal." She is formally a high-school English and journalism teacher. She graduated from California Baptist University with a Bachelor of Arts in English and went on to achieve her Master in Education from Sierra Nevada College.

Pros & Cons of Dating Older Women

Dating an older woman can have its ups and downs. For the most part dating an older woman is a positive experience. Age, experience, and stability fall down on the plus side of dating an older woman. However, older women often have other responsibilities such as children or elderly parents to care for. If you are looking at dating an older woman, carefully examine the pros and cons before you embark on a relationship.

Availability and Age (Pro)

Most men target women who are younger than they are. The American Association of Retired Persons found that almost a third of women over the age of 40 date younger men. This poll also found that 56 percent of women over the age of 40 are divorced, separated, or never been married.

Ability to Start a Family (Con)

As a woman reaches her 40s, her chance of getting pregnant is reduced compared to her late 20s and early 30s. If you want a family of your own this is something to consider. Normally, menopause occurs between the ages of 45 to 50. If you do not want kids or you are satisfied where you stand now as a family, then this is not a big deal. However, along with menopause can come anxiety, depression and fluctuating mood swings.

Experience and Time (pro)

Older women may have more time for you than a younger woman. Older women may be retired or on their way to retirement. They also may have children who are grown and off on their own. Most of them are done with the pressures of school. Having these obstacles out of the way allow an older woman to spend more time with you. Also, much of the time she spends with you may be relaxed and worry free. An older woman also has life experience behind her. She has probably dated before, maybe even married before and knows what to expect. An older woman is likely to have less drama than a younger mate.

Baggage (Con)

Older woman often come with what many might consider baggage. If an older woman has been focused on raising a family she may not have a huge bank account and might be looking to you for help. This is added pressure you may not be able to take on. Partially for this reason, a man dating an older woman might find that his friends and family do not approve of his relationship. Not having the support of family and friends is tough on any relationship.

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