Do you find that men are harder to decipher than ancient hieroglyphics? Truthfully, it's often impossible to determine what your guy is feeling or thinking, and most guys squirm in agony when faced with the prospect of discussing their feelings. So what's an inquisitive girl to do? Learn how to read the subtle signs of male body language, and sneak a peek into your dreamboat's brain.
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Tell Tale Signs of Male Body Language
Pay close attention to his eyes. The eyes are the windows to the soul, right? You will be able to tell what he's feeling just by looking into them. If he makes direct eye contact and holds your gaze, he is trying to show that he's interested. If he avoids eye contact completely, he is either trying to avoid you or he is feeling intimidated by you. A quick wink or frequent blinking both indicate interest and a desire to get to know the other person better. Also, take note of quick eye-angle changes and changes in pupil size as indicators of increased awareness. Enlarged pupils express heightened physical interest.
Notice his stance as you look to decipher male body language. A guy who stands erectly with his chest out and his hands at his side is showing others that he is a confident alpha male looking for a suitable companion. This male body language is an open stance, which indicates a desire to be approached. If he has his arms folded across his chest, it may signal that he is insecure and uncomfortable with himself. A closed stance like this shows that this guy is not ready for a relationship. Also, pay attention to his facial expressions. Men typically show less emotion than women and, as a result, their expressions are often more reserved and harder to decode. This means, however, that when he does show an obvious expression on his face, then it is genuine and should be taken seriously.
Watch for negative male body language signals such as lack of eye contact, poor posture, hiding of the hands, mumbling, stuttering, mispronunciation, extraneous body movements and darting eyes. These gestures indicate that he is either insecure, uninterested, bored, keeping something from you, lying to you or he's nervous. Negative male body language is basically a sign that he is anxious to get away for some reason. If you feel that he is nervous, try to make him feel more at ease by shifting attention away from yourself. Otherwise, take the negative signals for what they are, and get out of there. Life is too short.
Direction is a huge factor for figuring out male body language: which his body is pointing? If his body or certain body parts are pointing toward you, then there is a high probability that he is interested and wants to get closer to you. Pay attention to the direction his feet, legs, knees and face are pointing. When a guy likes someone, he will subconsciously position himself in the direction of that person. On the other hand, if his face, legs and feet are pointing away from you, then he is expressing a subconscious desire to keep a distance. This form of male body language is a tell-tale sign that he's not interested.
Notice positive male body language signals such as prolonged eye contact, signs of dominance, direct or "accidental" touching, thumbs hooked into his belt and preening. When a man finds someone of interest, he will instinctively adjust his tie, fix his hair or do other things to make himself look more attractive. These are all signs that he is interested in you and would like to get closer to you. If you don't see any of these signs when interacting with a male that you find attractive, then chances are that he does not share the same interest. These body language signals are very important because a man will typically express himself through subtle, subconscious signs rather than tell you exactly how he's feeling.
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- Learn to spot additional signals and cues by reading books written by body language experts. Find books on the subject at the library, local bookstores or online shops. The more you know, the better you will be at understanding the male species.
- Practice evaluating male body language whenever you're in public.
- Reading a man's body language takes practice. Don't expect to get it right every time.
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