What to Say to Get a Girl to Like You

by Damin Chu

About Damin Chu

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Damin Chu is a freelance writer, whose writing has taken her down a number of avenues. In 2008, she returned from Shanghai, China, where she served as the managing editor of a China travel guide, in addition to writing travel features for the local newspaper. Her other projects have included writing for a Shanghai expat guide, a education documentary, and an environmental NGO.

Getting a girl to sincerely like you requires time and some energy. There is no magical line that will win her heart, but there are general guidelines to follow when talking to her that will make you likable and appealing.

Remain Genuine

Acting natural is one of the most important things you can do when talking to a girl. Talk about things that interest you, rather than the things that you think she'll want to hear. Compliment her on the things that really attract you to her, but don't compliment her too much, since it can make you seem disingenuous. Noting how beautiful she is in a straightforward manner, when you really mean it, is more flattering and sincere than giving her a charming line that you picked up from somewhere else. Girls can tell when you're not being yourself. If you act like the real you, then girls will appreciate your confidence in showing them who you are, and will also feel more comfortable in showing you who they really are. Ultimately, talking to a girl in a way that's natural to you will also help your relationship, since the girl will end up liking you for you, not who you pretend to be.

Create a Repartee

Start with light, funny conversations that will allow her to get to know you in a more intimate way. Tell her stories about your family and friends, which will show her that you're a caring and loyal individual. Tell her about what you like to do in your spare time, and invite her to participate in one of your favorite activities with you, whether it be cooking, walking in the park and people watching, painting, or playing tennis. Keep the initial conversations light, so she doesn't feel pressure to go on a date with you. This will allow her to get to know you and become interested in all that you offer as a person.

Stay Inquisitive

Ask her questions about her life. What does she like to do in her spare time? What does she want to do in the future? If she could go anywhere in the world, where would it be? These questions will help you get to know her better, but will also show her that you care about her life and learning more about her. When you ask her questions, make sure that your tone is not aggressive, since this can seem off-putting. Girls want someone who will be there for them. Keeping an interest in her life and how she feels about it will make you seem approachable and supportive of her needs.

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