It is easy to jump too fast into a relationship with someone when you're looking for a soul mate. Unfortunately, many relationships become abusive in various ways. Manipulation in relationships is a form of emotional abuse. When a man is manipulative, it can lead to his partner feeling closed off from the world and unable to escape. Recognizing the signs early can help someone get out of a manipulative relationship before it goes too far.
He Uses Money
A manipulative man may try to convince you that you need him financially. He might spend lots of money on you in the beginning of the relationship so you grow accustomed to living well and receiving gifts. He may even invite you to move in with him and encourage you to quit your job so you have fewer options if you later decide you want to leave. As your relationship progresses, he might begin withholding gifts or money if you argue in an attempt to regain control over you.
He Acts Depressed
Manipulative men often act depressed or even suicidal when their partners indicate that they might want to end the relationship. He may say something like, "I can't live without you," or "I'm going to hurt myself if you leave and it will be your fault." If your partner is prone to these type of comments, he may be trying to manipulate your feelings and behavior.
He Plays Mind Games
Men sometimes use mind games to control their partners or sway their decisions. For example, he might spend time with you going on fun dates, but as soon as you disagree with him about something, he'll avoid contact until you begin to worry about him, shifting the focus to himself and letting you know how unhappy you've made him.
He Avoids Communcation
If your man is manipulative, he may not be willing to -- or even able to -- admit it. He'll change the subject if you mention it, or he may become defensive. He might completely deny the fact or revert to mind games to make you feel guilty for your perceptions.
He Isolates You
A manipulative man may try to cut his partner off from socializing with her friends or seeing her family. This is especially true if he fears that these others will point out his bad behavior. He might use guilt to stop his partner from seeing them or he may find a way to make her resent the other people so she will stop seeing them on her own.
He Blames Others
Whenever a problem arises, a manipulative man will usually blame it on his partner. He uses guilt to make his partner feel as though she caused the disagreement, leading her to apologize and to take it on herself to try to fix the relationship.
He's a Bully
Bullying is another form of manipulation. If a man uses threats to keep you around or keep you in line, this is abuse even if he doesn't follow through with the threats.
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