Speed dating is a more recent trend in the dating world. You only have a few minutes to leave a lasting impression with the women you are interacting with, so you need to make it count. You will be meeting a number of different women throughout the evening, but remember, they will be meeting many men as well. If you are able to enjoy yourself, while helping the woman you meet enjoy herself as well, you will have a second date in no time.
Dress for the Occasion
The first thing a person will notice about you is your appearance. Aside from proper hygiene, a woman will study your clothing style as well. Dress as if you are on a first date. Instead of wearing a tee and blue jeans, wear a collared shirt and dress pants. Make sure you leave a lasting impression, starting with your attire. Women love a man who knows how to dress.
Body language is another important part of speed dating. Be sure to sit up straight, and rest your hands on the table. Use hand gestures occasionally to show that you are interested in the conversation. Stay calm and relaxed, and be sure to hold eye contact with the person you are talking to - do not lose focus and stare at other parts of the body - this will make the woman feel like a piece of meat, and she will feel that you are not at all interested in what she has to say.
Women enjoy a man who is interested in what she has to say. Make sure to keep the conversation flowing. If she is discussing a topic, ask questions of interest that pertain to the topic at hand. If you are leading the conversation, be sure to ask for her input, as this will make her feel that her opinion counts.
If you are uncomfortable, you will make the woman uncomfortable as well. A woman wants to know that you can handle any situation, and that you are confident in yourself. Remember that you are speed dating, which is intended to be a fun way to meet new people in a short period of time. Enter the room prepared to have a good time, have a few drinks, and have an evening of good conversation.
Follow-Up a Few Days Later
At the end of the evening, you will turn in a card, listing the people you are interested in getting to know a little better. The women will do the same, and if you are both interested in one another, you will be given the woman's contact information. Give her a quick follow-up call or email, just letting her know that you had a good time, and would like to go on another date. Keep it short and sweet, and start planning your next date!
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