Speed Dating Tips & Questions

by Kristyn Hammond

About Kristyn Hammond

author image

Kristyn Hammond has been teaching freshman college composition at the university level since 2010. She has experience teaching developmental writing, freshman composition, and freshman composition and research. She currently resides in Central Texas where she works for a small university in the Texas A&M system of schools.

Speed Dating Tips & Questions


Successful speed dating requires a little preparation and care given to the questions that you intend to ask. You only have a few minutes to connect with each person during the night, so it becomes even more important to give them as much information about yourself as you can while you find out if they are someone that you would like to get to know better.

Things to Avoid

Do not drink before or during the event. Overdrinking is a turn-off for most people, and using it at a speed-dating event risks making the evening into an embarrassing situation. Do not attend a speed-dating event held at a place where you spend considerable time. Seeing friends at the event but not participating is a stressful experience and it will show in your mannerisms. Avoid negative or mundane details about your life, especially personal frustrations. You tend to discuss these things in too much detail, which leads to monopolizing the conversation and showing a frustrating self-interest. Avoid discussing past relationships. If you show a positive opinion of an ex, you risk appearing as though you hold feelings for the ex. If you have a negative opinion of an ex, you risk appearing bitter or wounded by the breakup. Avoid sharing your pictures of your children. The event is a chance for you to meet new people and for them to meet you. Do not check your cell phone during a date. Make sure it is set to silent and do not let your hands go anywhere close to it.

Things to Do

Look, dress and smell nice. Presentation is everything, and successful speed dating relies on your ability to present yourself in a very short amount of time. Be deliberate in your choice of apparel. Wearing an abundance of expensive jewelry tells him that you may be an expensive date. Jewelry that is subtle tells him that you are traditional and conservative. Select your accessories and clothing to provide an insight into your personality. This makes you more appealing to those who share similar tastes, while providing an image of yourself that makes you more memorable. Show up on time for the event and make sure that you bring a nice pen.

Questions to Ask

Prepare a list of questions ahead of time. Consider the four primary categories of questions to ask during your speed date and make sure that you have a ready list so you can diversify your questioning and make the evening more fun for you. The first category is your ice-breaker questions. The goal of these is to relax both of you by engaging in a thought that is different from your surroundings. Try asking him what his favorite pickup line is or for the worst pickup line that anyone has ever used on him. You ask information-gathering questions to learn about your date and include questions about their job or favorite foods. Questions about hobbies and interests help you learn about the things that they enjoy. Fun questions let you get some insight into their personality. Make long lists for each of these and commit them to memory.

View Singles Near You

Photo Credits

  • the man and the woman drink vine at restaurant. image by Slyadnyev Oleksandr from Fotolia.com