How to Stop Dating On The Rebound

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I know from experience how easy it is to date on the rebound; out of one relationship and into another one in less than two months. This is very unhealthy for both you and your rebound. You never know the affect a past relationship has until you try to get into another too soon. There are mixed emotions, hurt feelings, and confusion of all kind stirred up inside of you and unfortunately, the rebound catches all of it! There is not a time frame set in stone for these types of situations, but you know within yourself if you are ready to be complete in a new relationship. The new guy/girl does not deserve it and it's not good for your sanity. Give it time; especially if the last relationship ended negatively.

First, cry if necessary! It is ok and quite healthy to cry over the ending of a relationship. Rebounding is usually a way to heal after a long term, serious relationship; so more than likely there will be some tears.

Second, when one relationship ends, process it fully; understand the part you played in the break up. Figure out what you would do differently in the future.

After you have processed everything and gained what you need to gain and left behind what you needed to leave behind; it is time to "date" yourself.

Go out and enjoy you! Go see a good movie, eat at your favorite restaurant; buy a new outfit and shoes and make yourself beautiful/handsome. It's not until you feel good about you that you can be good for someone else. This step may take a few weeks or a few months; maybe longer depending on the situation.

Next, now that you feel good about you, ask yourself a simple question, "Do I have to be in a relationship now"? Depending on how you answer that question, you may be ready to date again.

Last but definitely not least, whenever you choose to date, date for the right reasons and be happy!

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Tips

  • Know that you are good by yourself. Loneliness is a state of mind!
  • Don't fall in the same trap over and over again; if the last man/woman had certain personality traits that didn't suit your liking, don't choose someone with the same traits.

Warning

  • Everyone involved will be hurt if you choose to date prematurely!