How to Sweet Talk a Girl

by Basil Carter

About Basil Carter

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Basil Carter is a writer and editor with six years of experience. She works in Boston, Massachusetts as a development editor in the custom publication department of a major publisher. Carter holds a Bachelor's degree in English with honors, and has completed numerous post-graduate courses on editing and publishing.

How to Sweet Talk a Girl

As with most matters having to do with dating and relationships, sweet talking is more of an art than a science. Because girls' preferences vary as much as their hairstyles, there's no single formula to follow when sweet-talking a lady. Still, every potential sweet-talker should keep a few key elements in mind.

Step 1

Make eye contact and smile. Whether you are sweet-talking someone you just met or someone you are dating, this will signal that you are friendly, open and interested.

Step 2

Offer a sincere compliment. Think of something you like or appreciate about the girl you are talking to, and tell her. Make sure the compliment is both genuine and appropriate.

Step 3

Ask questions. It might seem like "sweet-talking" means that you do all the talking, but this is far from true. A good sweet-talker asks the object of his affections questions about herself and shows interest in her responses and her conversation.

Step 4

Act respectful and smart. If you're nervous, it might be tempting to resort to raunchy jokes or silly antics, but these can stop a good sweet-talk in its tracks.

Step 5

Use humor when it feels natural. It's always good to make a girl laugh, so aim to be witty or funny if the opportunity arises. That said, don't force a joke if there are no good openings for your humor to shine through.

Step 6

Pay attention to a girl's signals. If the girl you are sweet-talking is being flirty, flirt back. If she is holding back, be reserved but friendly. A great sweet-talker will make a girl feel comfortable by noticing her vibe and responding in kind.

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  • Remember that if a girl simply doesn't want to be sweet-talked by you, no amount of cleverness will overcome that. Always respect a girl's wishes, and recognize if she wants to be left alone.

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