How to Talk to Girls You Don't Know

How to Talk to Girls You Don't Know

by Timothy Sexton

About Timothy Sexton

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Timothy Sexton's more than 10,000 articles have been published on sites ranging from USA Today to CareerAddict, from PopEater to TakeLessons.com. His writing has been referenced in books ranging from "The Reckless Life...of Marlon Brando" to "Brand New China: Advertising, Media and Commercial and from Scarface Nation to Incentive!"

Every guy has been in the same position at some point in his life: He sees an attractive girl and wants to strike up a conversation, but he's just too afraid or nervous to waltz up and jump right in. The more beautiful the girl, the more difficult it is. Yet for many men, just talking to any girl he doesn't know can be an ordeal worse than giving a public speech. This need not be the case, however, because once you know a few rules of thumb, there is no girl in the world you can't approach.

Approach the girl armed without fear of rejection. If you are rejected, depending on your taste, there are still other potential dates. Rejection does not mean the end of your dating life, but staying focus on the fear of rejection can limit your confidence Don't fear rejection -- embrace the possibility of acceptance.

Learn the secret of confidence. When walking up to talk to a girl, exude confidence. Walk with your shoulders back and look her in the eye as you approach. Talk without fumbling and mumbling, no matter how nervous you are. Confidence shows that you are assured in yourself, but also sends the message that you are certain that you're interested in a girl you're approaching.

Make a girl laugh -- if you do so, you can get her to talk to you all night long. Many women admire a man that can make her laugh. Making a girl laugh is more about peppering the conversation with witty observations than telling jokes. You must learn to integrate your humor into the flow of conversation by making funny remarks about what she says and humorous comments about your surroundings.

Give an original compliment to spark interest. Be creative. Approaching after you have heard her laugh gives you the perfect opportunity to tell her what a great laugh she has, but be sure to have something funny to follow it up with so you get her to laugh again. Comparing a girl to a great beauty can be dicey, so you don't want to tell a girl she looks like a certain celebrity if she thinks that celebrity isn't attractive.

Act like a gentleman. While it is true that there's a girl out there for every guy and deviant behavior is all around, the odds are in your favor if you act like a nice guy instead of a total jerk. A gentleman isn't crass or crude, and he treats a girl with respect. The odds are also in your favor that a healthy helping of the guys who have approached this girl in the past were less than classy, so you have that going for you.

Tip

  • If a girl isn't interested, do not pressure her to talk to you.

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Warning

  • If a girl isn't interested, do not pressure her to talk to you.

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