How to Tell Your Partner You Have an STD

by Gwynita Leggington

About Gwynita Leggington

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Gwynita Leggington has written and published articles since 2006. Her areas of expertise include health and wellness, education, careers, personal finance and dating. Leggington's work appears on eHow.com, Answerbag.com and Essortment.com. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in communications and a Master of Arts in counseling from Prairie View A&M University.

Everyday, more and more people get infected with a sexually transmitted disease. You can become infected with a STD if you come in contact with infected body fluids (vaginal fluids, blood and semen). There are many diseases out there and it is careful to protect yourself, as well as your partner. If you have tested positive for a STD, you should definitely inform your partner of your status and encourage him to get tested too. There are a few things that you can do in order to tell your partner that you have a STD.

Build a strong relationship and friendship with your partner. Before informing your partner of your STD status, trying getting to know her and see if you really want this person in your life. You should feel comfortable with your partner before sharing this information with her. In the meanwhile, do not engage in any type of sexual activity with her or anyone else.

Find a secluded place to talk to your partner. When the time is right and you’re ready to share this information, talk to your partner in private. Find a nice and quiet place away from everyone and away from any distractions.

Inform your partner about the STD. Be sure to provide him with as much information as possible about the disease. For example, tell him how you acquired it, your symptoms and treatment options. Also, provide him with any materials that you may have about the STD, such as pamphlets, books and brochures.

Encourage her to ask questions. Invite your partner to ask you questions about the STD. It is very important that you are honest and straightforward with your partner. Do not hide any facts or secrets from her. Your partner deserves to know the truth.

Ask your partner if he’s been tested. Inquire about your partner’s STD status and verify whether or not he’s been tested for all sexually transmitted diseases. If he has not been tested, offer to go with him to get tested and provide him with the name and number of a local testing facility.

Remain calm and give your partner time to come around. It may take some time for your partner to adjust to the news about your STD. So, be patient and understanding and try not to rush her.

Practice safe sex methods. If your partner decides to remain in a relationship with you, then you should practice having safer sex (especially if you have a STD such as HIV/AIDS, Hepatitis B, HPV or herpes). For example, you and your partner can use condoms to help reduce the spread of sexually transmitted diseases.

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