When you are interested in being more than just friends with a woman, and you want to avoid being thought of like a brother, put your most romantic foot forward. Stop wishing and wondering about how it will all turn out, and let her know what kind of relationship you are interested in.
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Get inspired. Look back on the times when you really enjoyed being around her, discovered that you might have a lot in common, or realized that you had tremendous respect for her.
Put yourself in her shoes. Based on what you know about her, imagine what language or situations might make her uncomfortable, and avoid them. If you are unsure, err on the side of caution. Avoid overemphasizing the appeal of her physical appearance.
Choose an appropriate venue for your disclosure, so that you can avoid embarrassment and awkwardness as much as possible. Telling her on a sailboat, miles away from shore, or announcing it from the audience of a talk show might not work out well for either of you.
Make yourself clear. You do not have to be cryptic to be tactful. Rather than wrapping your feelings of romance in a riddle, clearly convey your attraction. "You might already know that I like you, but I want you to know that I am interested in you romantically."
Keep the door open for a response, without putting pressure on her. Let her know that you want to remain friendly, even if you do not develop a closer relationship.
Resist requesting an immediate response. It is pretty off-putting if you say, "Well, what do you think of me? I mean, I could be wrong, but I am pretty sure that I was getting a vibe from you. Am I right or am I right?"
Give your declaration some time to sink in. It may take a few days or even weeks. Once you start counting the months go by, you can safely bet she is not interested.
Let it go and move on if the feelings are not mutual or if she doesn't mention it again.
Celebrate with her if she believes that you two just might become an item.
Learn from your experience, whatever the outcome. What would you do differently next time? Are you often interested in women who don't feel the same way about you? Are you open to approaching different women than you have ever considered for a relationship before?
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- Prepare for a positive experience, even if she doesn't share your feelings, or if she isn't sure how she feels. Putting yourself out there is great practice and may even encourage whoever likes you romantically to step forward.
- Being persistent and self-confident is one thing; being aggressive and aggravating is something else entirely. Realize that you are taking a risk that may really pay off, but it could also set you back temporarily if you are not quite her type.
- Keep it all in perspective. There is nothing romantic about pining over someone who is just not interested. Take a break and try again with someone else who would be a better match.
- A prolonged pursuit, no matter how sweet your intentions, can get pretty creepy. Think about those guys in bad, made-for-TV movies. You know the type. She should never have to tell you to leave her alone. If it reaches this point, then there are actual laws to protect her from you.