Ten Rules for Christian Dating

Ten Rules for Christian Dating

by Tiffany Norquest

About Tiffany Norquest

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Tiffany Norquest has been a writer since 2007, specializing in fitness, nutrition and personal wellness. She also covers parenting, technology and travel topics. Norquest holds a Master of Arts in industrial/organizational psychology and is a certified sports nutritionist and personal trainer.

For dating Christians, having a relationship full of fun and love must be weighed with self-control and upholding the faith. At times, Christian principles of chastity, honesty and worship present challenges but these same foundational guidelines also promote a wholesome and holy relationship based on trust, love and respect. These are all important qualities in a healthy, long-lasting Christian relationship.

Plan activities reflective of the faith.

Attend church together, pray, read the Bible, volunteer at charities or do mission work together. Venues such as bowling alleys, parks and bookstores sometimes sponsor Christian events. Go on dates in public places that enable you to make a connection based on common beliefs.

Establish boundaries and stick to them.

Set personal boundaries and communicate them openly early in dating. Choices to refrain from kissing, sexual relations, intimate touching or any other affection are best made early on.

Practice self-control.

Avoid temptations of the flesh, as Christianity calls for followers to remain chaste until marriage. Christians in a relationship spend quality time together without engaging in physically intimate acts.

Go on group dates when possible.

Group dates help foster a positive and wholesome Christian environment. They provide fun dates while making physical issues less of a distraction.

Communicate.

Getting to know each other through meaningful talks reveals a person's ability to be a good match for you. Expressing opinions, beliefs and thoughts help Christians determine if a relationship has a promising future.

Be honest.

Express your beliefs openly, and be upfront with your partner. Honesty is a core principle of Christianity, and stating the personal meaning and importance of your faith is often an attractive quality to fellow Christians.

Pray to God

As you encounter ups and downs during dating, make God your top priority and pray to Him during both good times and bad.

Involve Family

Christians often cherish strong family ties and think highly of families' and friends' opinions of their partner. Take your partner to meet members of your family and close friends. Not only will family activities guarantee wholesome dates, but watching your partner interact with loved ones provides insight into your compatibility.

Avoid Playing House

Christianity typically frowns upon cohabitation before marriage. This often includes choosing not to spend nights together, as Christians believe that sexual immorality should be avoided at all costs.

Have Patience

While Christianity sets forth many guidelines and the end result of all Christian relationships is a lasting, healthy marriage, do not pressure yourself with timelines or feeling that your current partner has to be your soul mate. Although God brings everyone into your life for a reason, that reason does not necessarily involve marriage. Feel free to move on if your current partner is not the right match for you.

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