Things to Do to Get Your Girl Back

Things to Do to Get Your Girl Back

by Mary Johnson-Gerard, Ph.D.

About Mary Johnson-Gerard, Ph.D.

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Mary Johnson-Gerard began writing professionally in 1975 and expanded to writing online in 2003. She has been published on the Frenzyness Divorce Blog and on Neumind International Pte Ltd. Her book "When Divorce Hurts Too Long—Ouch" was published in 2009. Johnson-Gerard holds a doctorate in educational psychology from the University of Missouri.

It is often difficult for a man who has been through a breakup, to accept that the woman is really done. Men go through many emotions with a breakup, and if they truly love the woman, there are steps that they can take that can help them get their girl back. Sometimes women break up with men to make a point. They want the man to see what life is like without them. Some men find that they prefer a life without the woman, while others would do anything to save the relationship. If you find yourself dying to get your girl back, then these steps will guide you in the process.

Don't Be a Stalker

Avoid calling or texting your ex-girlfriend all the time. Give her a couple of days to cool off and then figure out a plan that she will like. Some women enjoy flowers and candy, some love certain foods and some love to be pampered. Give her a gift of something that she enjoys, such as having her favorite meal delivered, or emailing a gift certificate to a spa. Do this without having to meet with her her, as a face-to-face encounter may set up the potential for a bad scene. She may appreciate the gesture, but not be quite ready to talk to you or see you yet. Send a card with the gifts, asking her to call you or set a time to meet the next day. Meeting in the daytime or right after work will help take the pressure off of her that you are on a date, as an evening meeting may suggest.

Overly Sensitive Doesn't Work

Women want a man who can protect and provide for them. This doesn't mean that you have to be super macho, but crying every time you see her isn't going to work. Sensitivity is an asset in a relationship, but being wimpy and whiny about being lonely will push her away. Share your feelings about the relationship with her, but not about how terrible your world it without her. Talk about the reasons you split and how to fix those. Make compromises to get to the root of the issue. That is the kind of sensitivity that she will appreciate the most.

Confidence and Honesty

Even though your heart is broken, it is imperative to seem confident in yourself and your situation. Begging to be taken back rarely works with women, but you also don't want to be too aloof in your encounters with her. Acting like you don't care will also shut her down. Honesty is absolutely the best policy here. In the long run, if she doesn't care how you feel about the situation, then maybe she isn't for you. It's OK to say that you miss her and want her back, but refrain from whining and groveling. She wants to hear about how you are going to change what went wrong. This is the time to talk about how both of you can work on mending the problems.

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