Tips for an Aries Dating a Virgo

by Beverly Bird

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Beverly Bird has been writing professionally since 1983. She is the author of several novels including the bestselling "Comes the Rain" and "With Every Breath." Bird also has extensive experience as a paralegal, primarily in the areas of divorce and family law, bankruptcy and estate law. She covers many legal topics in her articles.

Tips for an Aries Dating a Virgo

If it's true that opposites attract, then those born under the signs of Aries and Virgo should get along wonderfully. But a relationship usually requires more than just attraction. The attraction might get things going, but compromise is necessary for such opposites to keep things moving along smoothly.

Theory of Astrology

Astrology is the premise that the alignment of the planets in the sky at the time of your birth dictates your personality. Arians -- those born between March 21 and April 20 -- are impulsive, innovative, aggressive and outspoken. They love beginning projects, though not necessarily seeing them through to completion, especially if it involves a lot of work. Virgoans, born between Aug. 24 and Sept. 23, are methodical, reserved, slow to trust, and careful with decisions. In many respects, the signs are polar opposites.

Play to Your Strengths

As an Aries, you like to shine and take the lead. Luckily, Virgoans have no great need to be the focus of attention and they are not driven to always have their own way. If she's dissatisfied, she'll probably keep it to herself, then do a slow fade out of your life. If you, the Aries, can control your tendency to jump into things spontaneously, then you can be the one to plan dates and activities. You'll probably receive little resistance from her, provided you give her a heads-up. If you don't spring things on her at the last minute, she will most likely appreciate having you take control so she doesn't have to worry about it. You can get some brownie points for doing what comes naturally to you anyway.

Anticipate Problem Areas

Virgoans tend to be critical. They like things neat, clean, orderly and well-planned. If you fly too far afield of these ideals, you can expect trouble. Worse, he might not even mention his disapproval, because Virgoans can be so tight-lipped about their feelings. He might just distance himself from circumstances he finds intolerable. If he's picking you up at home, get all those projects you began but never finished out of sight. Make the bed. Do the dishes. If you don't, it will turn him off. Take just as much care with your own appearance. There's no room in this relationship for chipped nail polish, smeared lipstick or -- heaven forbid -- a minuscule stain on your clothing.

Compromise

Arians and Virgoans are so different that compromise is key if you are going to maintain a dating relationship. You'll have to make a conscious effort to tone yourself down at all times. You can still be yourself; just take a breath first before you act and give her some warning of what you're going to do next. As your relationship progresses, you'll want to experiment and try new things, but she will want to give all changes a great deal of thought first. Tell her your ideas, then be patient and wait for her verdict without trying to hustle her along. The good news is that she will most likely be open to hearing your arguments and persuasion. She will take them into consideration, as long as they don't involve anything too untidy or chaotic.

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