Types of Dating Abuse

by Faizah Imani

About Faizah Imani

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Faizah Imani, an educator, minister and published author, has worked with clients such as Harrison House Author, Thomas Weeks III, Candle Of Prayer Company and "Truth & Church Magazine." Her dossier includes JaZaMM WebDesigns, assistant high-school band director, district manager for the Clarion Ledger and event coordinator for the Vicksburg Convention Center.

Types of Dating Abuse

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's National Center For Injury Prevention and Control, 1 in 11 adolescents report being a victim of physical dating abuse each year. These statistics are alarming, to say the least. To make the matter even more alarming is that there are many more cases that go unreported. Often, victims do not report abuse out of fear. However, another victim might not report it because she does not know that her partner is abusing her.

Physical Abuse

Often, the victim and the abuser consider physical abuse during the dating period "no big deal." For example, if the victim is not being slapped, kicked or punched, then she does not view her situation as one that is abusive. Physical abuse can be as simple as a push or shove. If your date puts his hands on you in anger, stress, frustration or in order to have his way in a given situation, then it is physical abuse.

Emotional Abuse

When you date an emotional abuser, she constantly inflicts wounds to your emotions. This type of abuse is verbal. Your partner emotionally abuses you when she says things to constantly belittle you, demean you or damage your self-esteem. For example, she tells you how awful you look, how ugly or fat you are or how you fail in comparison to other individuals. Emotional abuse is intentional in that the abuser will say things that she knows will hurt the victim's feelings.

Psychological Abuse

Psychological abuse occurs when a partner abuses you mentally. It is when your date uses fear tactics as a means to control you. If he is always jealous and possessive of you, then that is a form of psychological abuse. For example, your date may always brag about how many guns he has and how he would kill you if you ever left him. Perhaps, he sits in front of you sharpening his knife right after you have had a major argument. The psychological abuse is not about words. It is about actions that the abuser uses to evoke fear in you.

Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse is when a partner forces or manipulates you into doing things sexually that you are not willing to do. This can be date rape, but sexual abuse does not always consist of rape. If you and your date are having an intimate moment and he performs a sexual act that is non-consensual, then the act is sexual abuse. If you say no to a sexual act and your partner continues to pressure you to perform the act despite your objection to it, that is sexual abuse.

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