How to Understand Women in Relationships

How to Understand Women in Relationships

by Maggie Hira

About Maggie Hira

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Maggie Hira has been writing professionally since 2006. She has written for numerous websites and print publications, including "LA.Direct Magazine" and The Budget Fashionista. Hira holds a Bachelor of Arts in English from the University of California, Los Angeles.

It's true that women can sometimes be difficult to understand in relationships. However, it only takes some patience, time and a little determination to decipher even the most confusing female behavior. By working to learn women's experience and how to communicate with them, you'll be able to understand them in no time.

Step 1

Do some research. Spend some time with your female friends, sisters, aunts, grandmothers or female cousins and pick their brains. Don't be afraid to ask some pressing questions. You'll be surprised at how much you can learn about female behavior, habits, interests and desires just by spending time with your female friends and relatives. An observant male will learn everything he's ever wanted to know about the female species. This exercise will also help to eliminate some of the confusion that men feel when faced with trying to understand the opposite sex.

Step 2

Get out of your comfort zone. If you want to understand women in relationships, get ready to wear your heart on your sleeve. Most women expect their men to be in touch with their own emotions as well. Learn to open up and not keep all your feelings bottled up inside. Let down your guard and confide in her about any life-changing events or experiences, such as the death of a loved one. As you continue to share your inner-most emotions with her, you will notice the bond between you growing immensely. More important, you will realize that, for women, sharing emotions and stories is an important part of a relationship.

Step 3

Listen to what she has to say. This requires staying silent on your part. You have probably conditioned yourself to look as though you're listening when, in fact, your mind is somewhere else completely. It's time to stop such disrespectful behavior and get used to giving the woman in your life your undivided attention. All you have to do is listen. Most of the time you don't even have to give any advice because all she wants is to know that you care. Just listening intently is enough, and doing so will be warmly appreciated.

Step 4

Talk to her. Next time the two of you have a disagreement or argument, do not give her the silent treatment. No matter how difficult it may be for you, you must let go of your pride and approach her for a genuine conversation. Ignoring her will only make you appear immature. If she asks you if something's wrong, don't give a shrug and say "nothing." The most important factor in any relationship is communication. If you refuse to open up, you will only make the woman in your life feel more insecure and uncertain about the relationship, and this will make her behavior seem that much more confusing.

Step 5

Walk a mile in her shoes. You will gain a much broader understanding of women in relationships if you simply take the time and effort to acknowledge the struggles and disappointments that women face. Try to look at the world from a female viewpoint, but be aware that the view may be quite overwhelming. As you become familiar with some of the hardships that women face, you will gain a much deeper understanding of a woman's mind and heart. When that occurs, you will never be confused again.

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