She sees him across the room and wants to make him hers. While romance novels and movies may create images of scantly-clad seductresses, real women have other options when it comes to landing a man. Whether you want to take a physical approach or go with a more subtle mental connection, seduction is about stealthy romance and making him see you shine.
If he knows that you like him, he may think that he has you. If he thinks that you might like him -- but isn't entirely sure -- the uncertainty may hook him, according to cognitive psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman in his article "The Most Powerful Law of Seduction" on the Psychology Today website. Playing hard to get or giving mixed singles is a passive approach to seduction that doesn't put you physically out there. Instead of overtly trying to show him a sexy side, a woman may make the man think that he may or may not have a chance with her.
Scent of a Woman
Men don't just rely on their eyes when it comes to picking a potential romantic partner. The sense of smell also factors into attraction. When trying to seduce a man, some women layer on supposedly sexy perfumes. Instead of a musky scent attracting a man, it's more likely that the sensual scent makes the woman feel more seductive, according to "The Smell Report" on the Social Issues Research Centre's website. Some scents -- such as pumpkin pie, lavender and doughnuts -- along with strong smells may arouse men. Wearing perfumes that feature these sweet or floral scents may help attract a man.
Recent research shows that men are more likely to value a woman's appearance when it comes to relationship satisfaction than vice versa, according to the article "Men Still Value Physical Attractiveness in a Long-Term Mate More Than Women" in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. With this in mind, women may use cosmetics, hair color and choose stylishly seductive clothes to attract a man. Even though there's no real evidence that points to revealing clothing or overly made-up faces being any more seductive than natural beauty, some women may feel the need to primp in order to land a man.
Flirt In Different Ways
Seduction doesn't include one type of flirting. While facial gesturing -- such as batting eye lashes or maintaining a constant gaze -- are certainly seduction styles, some women may engage in other types of flirting. There are several different ways that people flirt, according to Jeffrey Hall, associate professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas, in his article "Flirting Styles" on his website. Some women use a playful or physical style that includes body language as well as touching a potential mate, while others are more sincere and try to create an emotional connection.
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